The fact that my grandmother* could say this about her parents always makes me hate the folks who act like slavery was “so long ago, get over it”. When my grandmother could tell me stories about her mother, the former slave, we are not that far from anything.

What say you, cheerleaders?

Most of the time if I have to hit a torrent for something, it is not actually costing anyone money. For example I would never have paid for Suicide Squad, but as a matter of nerd cultural literacy I downloaded and tolerated it.

One of those little things that made Mad Men so great: Dawn and Shirley calling each other Dawn and Shirley.

How about not telling Black people or any other nonwhite people what is and isn’t racist? You have zero experience with having an obviously ethnic name and how that affects one’s life. And let me add to your education by informing you that a) lack of intent does not equal lack of racism and b) it is not on nonwhite…

You already knew someone who thinks they’re clever was gonna make a comment like this. It’s 75 degrees in LA today. I’m going to enjoy myself.

I feel their pain. Almost literally.

And then when you tell them the truth, you’ll laugh at their relief? You’ll be able to shrug off what others have had to deal with all of their lives. Please don’t do this. I know you think you’re being progressively, anti-racist, but you’re not.

I’m probably somewhat different from your friend - I love when friends of mine talk about their kids and if I like the partner, then I like them talking about the partner too. But what I think is terrible is that us singles are never given the space to talk about that struggle too. It’s always shut down with stuff…

God, I feel all of this. I did eventually marry, but that decade where I didn’t have anyone yet every woman I knew bounced from relationship to relationship with less than a month in between, each time expecting me to be the emotional support for them? And you’re just sitting there wondering when you are going to get…

Thank you, Aimée, for this piece. It’s a wonderful expression of how we are meant to feel like our lives are still and empty because we aren’t in a relationship or aren’t pursuing one.

THANK YOU.

“Forcing dozens of women to go and perform for this man is without a question going to be problematic.”

This is precisely why I gave up straightening my naturally 4C hair. EVERYTHING made my hair break off. If I used the “lite” perm, there were no actual changes to my hair structure. “Regular” or “Bone Straight” would effectively straighten my hair, but would also weaken it to the point of falling out. Wash and…

Let’s compare it to other industries. If you got a job at a PR firm, you would need a minimum level of experience to get the job. From there, the firm would likely have a pre-determined salary range and your starting salary would be based on previous experience. After that, your salary would largely depend on your…

A cherished memory.

This is maybe the most efficient possible way you could have demonstrated what Madonna was referring to.

It’s because they are black. We are expected to forgive and be kind even though that courtesy is never extended to us. If you look at news conferences or reports where a black person has been killed extra-judiciously or in one of these racist attacks, one of the first things the family is asked is “do you forgive the…

People can be non-white - even black - and still have an exaggerated and irrational fear of young black men because we live in a culture that frequently portrays young black men as extraordinarily dangerous and violent.

Classic hotep move. A faint, distant, soupçon of fact smothered in misinformation and transformed into loud foolishness, with the erasure of WOC’s agency and bodily autonomy as the delicious, culminating cherry on top.