My husband’s most attractive quality when we first met was he didn’t want kids either. The relief was palpable.

I just don’t buy this. Like, are there really 26 year old women passing up on dating 26 year old men because their income isn’t big enough yet? I just didn’t see this. At 26, all my friends who were dating or involved were dating guys around their age. There was a disparity in dating older for a few years in our early…

The thing that gets me is that clearly most of them would still be partying if they could just not deal with the hangovers and feeling foolish in a much younger crowd. They don’t want a family so much as they want something else to do.

Everyone has preferences, but usually when you see people (mostly guys) insisting they have preferences, what they really mean are requirements, and those requirements are usually so specific (and only about appearance and age) that they are basically fetishes.

While I have to bite back a dozen sarcastic quips, I do feel for a guy who doesn’t want kids yet still wants a life partner. As a CFBC female I am keenly aware how uncommon my mindset is. We are hard to find, and we are often so badly hassled for it that we go into hiding in social situations.

My fiance’s college-age cousin is a pudgy physics major with a neckbeard, and he always has a cute girlfriend. His not-so-secret secret is that he doesn’t pine away for the supermodel types but actually gets to know women in his classes/activities and asks them out. They’re quirky nerds just like him.

Completely agree.

Well, yes and no... you can’t force attraction. Trust me. I’ve tried. But the problem comes when attraction is tied to the solely visual and, more than that, solely cultural standards. If you can only find people who are in magazines or on your tv beautiful you’re gonna be disappointed.

I’m going to Thailand for two weeks next month to work with elephants. That’s how I’m wallowing in my singledom. It’s going to be a blast. And nope, I do not feel bad that I’m not sharing it “with someone I love.” I am - ME. Being 44 and unencumbered feels pretty awesome. I’m not in debt paying for my kid’s college…

I’ve had this problem over and over with one friend of mine.

They go younger because younger women i.e. in their early to mid 20s are the only ones who will tolerate their bullshit, ridiculous expectations, and mind games. Good riddance. I am thankful these guys wouldn’t touch me at 30. Saves me the trouble of dealing with them.

Yes to all of that. Families don't just happen by magic. Relationships take time and effort. Having children takes time and effort. Life is also full of the unexpected. What if you meet that perfect 25 year and she turns out to be infertile? These guys just seem to have very immature views on how life works.

Yes, unless you count the secretly-married “bachelors” on okCupid.

Yeah, unfortunately reading this ... I saw a lot of myself in this article. Not the “finding a young thing to procreate with” but the guys who who were talking about meeting someone. It gets hard...

As a single 34 year old woman living in a big city, I call bullshit on this so hard. I would love to get married and have wanted that for some time. I want to create a home, equal partnership and life with someone.

I feel bad for lonely people who aren’t outright bad people, but I meet a lot of lonely men who simply impose impossible standards on their “dream girl” and trap themselves in loneliness by their own accord. Granted, this isn’t limited to men, but I feel (don’t know, just feel) like more men inflict impossible…

Here’s a glaring omission that many people seem to forget: you don’t need a woman to have a child and start a family! You can adopt as a single parent!

This is what happens in a society that tells men they are entitled to whatever woman they want. They’ll spend years Goldilocks-ing their way through the dating pool (too fat, too tall, calls too much, wears too much makeup...) only to find themselves 40 and still single. Then they lament that no woman wants them.

I would have lived in New York when I was younger if I could. I liked it there. If I could do it again, I’d live for a while in one of the great world cities, New York, London, Paris, Berlin. I’d still move to Berlin in a heartbeat if I could.

I sympathize with these guys, except the Lee douche who feels entitled to a fertile young thing (FYT) but is worried his friends will judge him. Why not? It sucks when you’re getting older and all your friends are partnering up and starting families and everyone at bars and shows is younger than you and you realize…