I can’t help worrying that it might break, like maybe if it has a faultline and she sits on the wrong spot. Get off the table, Blac Chyna!

In my opinion, your comment should be deleted. Saying no repeatedly is the clearest sign of not consenting you can give. You can’t always stop someone, so you just freeze sometimes. You have clearly never been in such a situation. Of course it’s not a good lesson and you really need an empathy transplant before you’re…

Active consent is a legal requirement in some jurisdictions, just not in the US.

How is someone repeatedly saying ‘no’ and physically freezing up ‘willing-yet unwilling?’ Is there anything you can point to in the above story that demonstrates any element of willingness?

No, nagging for sex itself is not considered rape. No one even said that. For the record, I think nagging for sex is bad, but nagging for sex and then taking it from an unwilling participant who has not consented or openly said no is considered rape. Of course a four year old nagging their parents for hours on for…

But I think this way of thinking about it is one of the things that helps to endorse rape culture. We think ‘he’s a nice guy that just made a mistake. there shouldn’t be a penalty’ and this really helps to support rape culture overall. There are many situations I have thought of in a similar way, but I think we need…

Yep, agreed. As a woman, I would also need to be in a relationship where I’m sexuallly satisfied. I’ve been in incompatible relationships in the past and you do need to communicate that this is important to you (although maybe also good to make sure they know you’d never want them to do anything they didn’t want to).…

And why not? If the author’s not extremely traumatised (which I am only inferring from the post) then someone else he tries it on might be. At least in my country the law is very clear that there doesn’t have to be evidence of physical harm/ physical violence for it to be rape. I’m a bit disappointed with the Jezebel…

I think it would depend on which country you’re in. In Canada and some jurisdictions in Australia and probably also in Sweden there is an affirmative consent standard, so the defendant has to prove that they established consent. It’s not as simple as saying it’s not legally rape.

It’s so strange because it isn’t any more or less beautiful than the cheapie backyard weddings I’ve been to that needed to use similar whimsical elements (mostly due to low budget). But these guys would’ve spent so much money on what amounted to pretty much the same thing.

I think the remake could do with a bit more of a dark element. If you read LM Montgomery’s journals there’s a lot of her life in Anne’s. But her life was quite hard in a lot of ways, which is where I think the books get their wistful quality from. I’d love to see that come through, because I think that’s what I…

I’m not Canadian, so maybe I was imagining Anne wrong in the books, but I just found Megan Follows a bit irritating. I think Anne came across as a bit generic and bland, whereas I feel like the books kept highlighting that she stood out a bit from the other girls due to being a bit more subtle and sensitive and…

I’m Australian and my first thought was, ‘well, that’s not even a *particularly* big goanna’.

Yes, this is what I find strange. My dad is from a working class background and has moved home multiple times just to save a bit of money. He got more financial support than I ever did, but seems slightly judgmental about my life choices.

Yes, I’m in Australia and I’ve noticed that increased social support and a government education loan system has meant that people have needed to rely a bit less on parents too. But I still know people who have had a lot of similar advantages (free car, dental bills paid, parents bought a house, living at home rent…

Yes, I come from a poor family and I am not that good with money. I’d like to be the kind of person who is good with money, but I’m not. I think being quite poor, you learn to take small joys where they come, so if you have a spare $5, then you might spend it on some tiny thing that makes you happy. I’m now slightly…

Yes, my brother will live with my mum rent-free for months if he gets into financial trouble. But he’s still been working, so it’s not like he’s been destitute. I would never do this. If I ever had to move back home, I’d scrape together what I could to contribute to the household budget. My mum is very poor too; I…

I so understand this. I’m 32 and had to ask my mum for a few hundred dollars for the first time in my life. It was completely my own fault because I fucked up after spending too much on (a very low-budget) holiday. I felt really awful and she did say, ‘well, I’ve never done this for any of my other children’ which…

Well, structurally, so much work is insecure and without benefits now, so I guess only the rich are allowed to procreate. Or we challenge the prevailing economic conditions. I have degrees and a job that was traditionally middle-class and that still hasn’t given me anything more than a string of short contracts. I’m…

I had similar experiences too due to a feminist upbringing. I never heard anything about my appearance until I was about 10-11 and I was called pretty or cute a couple of times by adults and a girl in my class said she thought I should model or go in a local pageant. When other kids said they thought I was ugly, I…