@bluebears: If her underlying fear is being rejected because of her ugliness, then it makes sense that she can stand to be on television where people will passively watch her without being able to engage her directly.

@14Kgold: I never said that doctors were considering only the birth method, I was responding to the pearl-clutching lurid and morbid allusions other posters were making in this comment section. No one sane thinks an elementary school student having a baby is a-ok, but Lina Medina survived it, so even though it's not…

@phindigo: Thanks for the support, what I forgot to say was covered by Warpsbyherself's comment. Don't forget that being a hardbody doesn't mean you are the best person in the world, and being rotund doesn't mean you're evil. Choices about food and exercise are morally neutral - most people are like you, doing the…

@Greenspanner-in-the-Works: I don't buy it. My country has had universal heath care for decades, and our diets are similar, and although we're not perfect, we aren't bankrupt yet. It still doesn't justify making everyone an honourary Food Sherriff. Not saying people in general don't have a disordered relationship with…

@14Kgold: I was only addressing the assumption that she would have to give birth vaginally, which was being implied by more than one person in this thread. I know having a baby at 10 is sucky for more reasons than one. As for "responsible doctor", well, they have to abide by the law, don't they? I don't blame them for…

@14Kgold: They will probably give her a C-section. Mexico is not some lawless wilderness; they have hospitals and competent doctors. If she is under a responsible doctor's care, I seriously doubt she will have to give birth vaginally.

@Pickard.AL: "Anti-choice activists are well aware of this reality, and of the fact that notification laws are so often prohibitive of abortion access by nature."

@TheFormerJuneBronson: Was she assuming they are down because they are fat, or down because everyone else hates on them all the time for being fat? IMO, having the oppression recognized and talked about openly is the opposite of dehumanization.

@missdelite: "What if I see them eating something I consider to be unhealthy? At that point, do I have permission to throw empathy out the window?"

@JillJitsu: I was going to say this, but in a much more sarcastic way. This post doesn't really offer much in the way of solutions; just statements. Not that there is anything wrong with that. Just sayin'.

@requimulous: I agree with you. Pretending that abusers are scary monsters with goo dripping from their fangs just makes it that much harder to deal with abuse in real life, where there are shades of gray. I am not saying that abusers should not be held responsible, or that abuse is ever okay. Just that when we create…

@femme-bot: I am sure there are people out there who regret having kids, but if someone says they don't, then they don't. Why browbeat people until they tell you what you want to hear? Just ask someone else, and keep asking until you hear what you're looking for.

@Ziller: What a great perspective. I am someone who chose to make my relationships a priority, familial and friendship both. I was not an achiever and now feel it's too late. Sometimes I feel a twinge, but when I am spending a Saturday afternoon in May sitting on a picnic blanket, sharing coconut gelato and inside…

@Dancingfrog: No one is denying the concept of intersectionality. It is true that conventionally pretty women with disabilities suffer from ableism, just as beautiful women of colour suffer from racism, etc. And it is true that those forms of oppression also warp people's perceptions of their sexualities and…

@Canadarling: Patisserie de Nancy. The review on the Google page is bad, but my experiences have only been positive. The kitchen-accessory place down the street on Monkland also sells sugar infused with flower-essence.

@elisa: Try finding a French-style patisserie. It's the most likely place to find them.

@Canadarling: They have a wonderful texture, as well. I had my first one ever a few weeks ago from a well-known patisserie here in Montreal, and it was divine. I might not have tried it, but they had rose and lavender ones, and I am a sucker for anything edible made from flowers.

@Dancingfrog: Your point is still a derailing of this topic.

@Hiroine Protagonist: pz hasn't contributed anything to this thread which wasn't hurtful and fallacious. really.

@SusanDeath: Thank you. My bullying had the exact same effect on my psyche. I take blame on myself for things which are not my fault, and often feel immense pressure to please and placate in situations where it isn't warranted. It is such a relief to hear that this could be a normal reaction, and not because I am…