I hope somehow they can reach around an agreement to settle their dispute.

Let’s just hope they washed their hands of the whole affair. With lots of Purell.

I do see one thing that might help as a self defense from reading some of these, especially with acquaintance rape, you have to humanize yourself (you shouldn’t HAVE to, I know...) and do your best to make eye contact, make him SEE you, make him see it’s not a good thing.

I doubt that's a genuine question if you're anything like the author of this article, but what the hell. Below the dismissive heading "Biology (The "I can't help my dick!" argument)", that dude pretty much sums it up.

You know, I think it's fine to say women shouldn't be responsible for preventing rape, and that's true. But I also think there's often a lot of confusion on both sides - the guy thinks she wants it, and the girl can't believe this guy they know is actually going to rape them. Clearing up that confusion is helpful.…

I think what I took away is women and men both need to be socialized to be upfront and honest about their sexual desires and what they are interested in doing and not doing. These stories aren't unusual. I even "witnessed" a "rape" once of a friend... who was on top of the guy, screaming her head off all kinds of…

I don't think we should listen to this Reddit thread so we can personally prevent rape. I don't think it's up to a woman herself to prevent rape. (See: the whole point of SlutWalk, etc.) The thread is important in terms of analyzing rape culture because how can we teach people not to rape and why rape is wrong if we…

People tend to not know what rape really is- as some of the contributors (and the article) said, many of them didn't realize that what they were doing wasn't okay. For them it was a logical extension of normal desire. One can argue, "Well, they SHOULD know that it's not okay!" but the reason that rape is so prevalent…

I think that we can't really know motivations and accommodations — social and cultural ones — that allow men to feel they're NOT raping until we hear stories of this. Is it ridiculous that we have to explicitly say "HEY IF SHE'S CLAMPING HER LEGS TOGETHER SHE'S NOT CONSENTING!"? Sure. But as the article's pointed out,…

I think the quote about desexualizing rape at the end is a good beginning of an answer to that question. Sometimes rape IS about sex. Guys should be taught how to be sure they have consent and how to reign it in when they don't have it. The idea that rape is exclusively performed by a sociopath lurking in the shadows…

I don't think that this has to do with preventing rape at all. This is a cultural expose. Sickening though they are, if nothing else these accounts show us candidly just what self-rationalization in a culture that encourages rape looks like. So, yes, we should pay attention to this.

I don't think anyone is saying reading that thread will prevent rape, but rather discussing the whole thing more honestly and openly is a good step at actually changing the way our culture looks at sex and rape.

I don't think this is a conversation that should be shouted down, but I share your concern that it might not be very productive either. On the one hand, one thing we come back to here, again and again, is that women CAN'T prevent rape. Only rapists can stop raping. So understanding rapists on a individual level can…

I guess my question is what these rapists' and would-be rapists' stories tell us about how to prevent rape. I agree that it's important to have this discussion candidly, and that we should pay attention to what kinds of situations may become dangerous. But reading through these accounts, I'm left confused. The main…