I wasn't attempting to compare this to child sexual abuse in any way; there are simply a lot of issues of power differential beyond what many people here are wanting to entertain.

I apologize for being testy earlier, and my response was not, uh, as civil as I should have been, so I am sorry. I think I've just spent a little too long on Jezebel today. That and I need to eat something. ;P

Laters. :)

I don't know, I'm sure I get obviously exasperated at times on here every so often, and in fact I was just earlier with someone, I had to go take a break and shower. I probably just need a Snickers or something. ;P

But lately I will at least try and own up to it if I lose my cool and apologize to the other person,…

I think Gawker posted posting guidelines a few months ago which specifically prohibited making personal attacks on other commenters, so maybe I'm just being civil because it's the "law". ;) It hasn't really helped Kotaku much, to be honest. Or even here, I've noticed.

Like I said, it's anecdotal, but I'm sure if you ask around, it can be corroborated, if you have no personal experience with it yourself. Sometimes even the threat that it can happen is enough to be coercive, because people are so frightened of being locked up in a mental health ward.

If you really want to know, I…

You didn't read what I wrote along with the previous link, did you. I pointed out that Doodnaught got away with it for so long because he had his own colleagues and people who worked with, for and under him, attesting to his character. That's the kind of influence I'm talking about. Like I said before, it doesn't…

No, of course we don't. It depends entirely on what that mental health issue is, and the severity of it. But to pretend it has no effect, or little effect, on a person's agency is disingenuous.

Also, here's another question (one I've seen posed before on the internet): is sexting actually 'cheating'?

It's probably a kind of emotional/psychological 'cheating', but I know a lot of guys would say 'no, it's not cheating' (whether it's because they've secretly sexted women who wasn't their girlfriend, or because…

True, but the clinic where the doctor worked came highly recommended, and the Google reviews of the doctor himself where 'glowing'. And as for the reasons she went back despite the 'weirdness' of at the end of their previous interaction, he had helped her and knew her medical history: anyone who's spent a lot of time…

I meant "on trial" in a figurative sense, not in the literal 'taken to court' sense. ;P I.e. the court of public opinion. I just see it as more victim-blaming.

To even typify her conduct as 'cheating' is more victim-blaming, and a lot of people are referring to her conduct as 'cheating', as if that's so much a worse…

Oh, that's what you were asking about? A doctor could easily say their patient was a threat to themselves, or to others, and have them 'sectioned' (to use the British term). I've had to take people I know to the mental health wing of the local hospital on more than one occasion, and I'm not even a doctor: it's…

No, but nevertheless, that power differential exists, because of that possibility, even if she wasn't thinking about it in those terms.

"You are correct. And, if mentally sound people go along with it, going along with it is their fault. It is their fault even if they have self-esteem issues. And although mental illness, to a certain extent, does diminish responsibility, they still have that responsibility. A person who is, ultimately, not at all…

http://globalnews.ca/news/975757/ve…

You wouldn't believe how many of his co-workers and colleagues testified that this guy would not do such a thing, despite the fact that he's been brought before the medical board for inappropriate behaviour before. Of course, it's not necessarily any kind of conspiracy, but because…

Oh, I never said it was the same at all: I was simply speaking to the 'people-pleaser' aspect of the situation. I mean, the sex, gender, sexual orientation, situations, everything about it is entirely different, I was merely talking about my personal experience because some people don't seem to understand to what…

Sorry, I misspoke: I should have made it clear that postpartum depression and postpartum psychosis are different, albeit interrelated. There's clearly a danger in conflating the two. I'm just saying that that postpartum can become serious if left untreated, and that depending on the severity, it can substantially…

Yeah, but I'm not suffering from post-partum depression either. I was merely talking about the 'people-pleaser' aspect, which I think is definitely a factor which needs to be considered, but only one of many other issues that need to be considered.

I'm not sure how I would react if my doctor (and I've had quite a few…

You make it sound like the doctor doesn't have any friends, or colleagues, or contacts, or pull, or influence, or favours, or any number of other ways in which he can assert his will over his patient far beyond the confines of the doctor's office. Doctors wield considerable power in society, are looked up to by…

It's definitely a fine line between infantilizing people and finding victims where none exist... and seeing that there are multiple factors to consider which may impact and impinge on how the situation and the relationships between those involved are assessed.

Maybe it's because you're not a 'people-pleaser' so you don't understand, but I was socialized to be very much a 'yes-man': I have difficulty saying no to people's requests, even if it's particularly onerous to me.

And yet, when I'm asked to do something, I'll usually happily agree to do it, smiling, as if it's…