Well, BBSing probably had its own issues, even though there was a moderator/sysop. I never got into it even though I had a 300 baud modem back then because, well, 300 baud modem says it all. ;)

But certainly community policing has its ups and downs as well, because it can lead to community bullying, as I've seen…

Oh yeah, or even on Facebook itself, on certain political sites with a Facebook page. I seriously would not believe how ignorant some people are about how easily someone like an employer could find said person's hate speech online on Facebook... except you could tell by the person's ignorant comment that that person…

I agree. There's value in the views of people who actually play the games, not just make them. There is _so much_ in video games what weren't intended by the designers, programmers, etc. but were discovered by players and have since been incorporated into games (if they weren't simply bugs that needed to be coded…

I used to be that way, but it makes Team DeathMatch so much easier to have a headset. Not _as much_ of a problem in a game like Ghosts which thoughtfully included a way for your 'toon to call out where they saw an enemy/got killed without needing a player to do it and risk having their nasally voice made fun of, but…

Thanks, I'll definitely have to check that book out. :)

I'm very much interested in human sex differences and any biological underpinnings, which really started when I first watched a documentary about intersex people (http://www.cbc.ca/player/Shows/S…)
as well as our society's trans*phobia and how the world really is…

I didn't think that's what Maximinus was saying: merely that there are political implications of dating partners, and that it behooves people to consciously understand the ramifications of the choices they make, _not_ that they _have_ to make certain choices.

But I did up-star your comment as anecdotal evidence (which…

I don't think that's a fair criticism in an online discussion, since none of us here are writing doctoral dissertations.

On the one hand, it is fair to ask for one's sources because there may be unknown biases which may invalidate said sources, but on the other hand, we all have access to Google so we can all…

I think there are political implications which make people resistant to some such theories, which I understand, but in the end, I think it would be helpful in dealing with societal issues like sexual assault if we could find some sociobiological underpinnings if they exist.

Hypothetically speaking, if men _were_ biologically more inclined to rape, then wouldn't we as a society have an obligation to discover said fact, so as to be able to control for it and ameliorate such effects in men by socializing them differently?

I think regardless of the political ramifications of such a discovery,…

I would say that there are more people who have misinterpreted evolutionary psychology than there are those who have actually read it.

I mean, I've never read any, but I'm familiar with the reasoning and I think there's a certain amount of truth to some of it, but it's certainly not any kind of catch-all explanation…

I disagree there: as a guy who argues online a _lot_, I get my fair share of hatemail/hate messages, and even just skimming them to delete them or vote them down, I find it wearying and exhausting, to the point where I sometimes wonder why I bothered to say anything at all.

And that's just being a cis-gender male with…

If my sister's experience on OKC is any indication, then yes, guys don't read the profiles at all. :( Except for our one friend who we met on there, but he's pretty cool like that.

I do read profiles as well, but I'm weird and picky, and I admit I like pictures as well, as I don't look at profiles without them.

OKC is about casual sex?! That I didn't know: I generally expect other people to read profiles, not just look at pictures, and considering OKC actually has settings where you can just look for friendship, I figured it would be _less_ about casual sex.

Of course, it's a free site, so not exactly surprising if it…

I think a 'creeper' is defined as someone below 5'5". ;P A physically-imposing dude cannot, by definition, 'creep' because they're simply too large. ;)

But definitely there is some correlation between size and behaviour, and 'to creep' as a verb tends to be more closely associated with beta males, not alphas.

That…

Well, I think it extends far beyond OKC (and generally I would have hoped a dating site that seems to ostensibly care about societal issues would attract less Cro-Magnonesque types) but I see your point. So many men are all offended if they get turned down, and while I understand disappointment in rejection, so long…

Your last paragraph, while I definitely think it's important for all people to be aware of their own inner drives and motivations, as well as the consequences thereof on acting on them, I also believe that women should have the agency to be able to choose 'the man they want', rather than have to choose for themselves…

Apparently there is a biological basis for that, and sadly (for sadly for me as I'm 5'4" ;P) women tend to prefer men who are more 'alpha' during ovulation. I obviously can't speak to that, merely repeating what I read elsewhere:

http://www.nature.com/news/2005/0507…

Agreed. I sometimes feel uncomfortable when arguing with women online (or presumably women, at any rate: they claim to be women, or self-identify as such, so ergo, others treat them as women), because I know that in many ways, our society will rate my position higher simply because I am a cis-gender male, regardless…

Except that men also are arbiters of how women are viewed, and how women view themselves and each other: it's men who want(ed) women to be chaste and pure, which created the whole madonna/whore false dichotomy of how women are viewed as either 'sluts' or pristine, virginal purveyors of immaculate conception.

Totes agreed. As a cis-guy, I used to play female characters on online games but stopped after repeated sexual harassment from fellow players (thankfully no one I knew in my 'real' persona). I was glad to have done it though, because it gave me a little bit more insight into how our society treats women and girls.