This helps me. I think back to mildly offensive things people have said to me and I realize that it was probably taken or said out of context and that the whole of that person is not defined by one statement. And that I totally forgive them for anything they said and if it had genuinely offended me, I would have told…

I have a case in which one man has been accused of physically assaulting three women and his daughter (and he’s trying to get custody of the daughter). I think it was some of the most effective cross examination I’ve ever done when I asked, names changed:

Ooh good idea.

You keep using that term, MSM. That acronym does not mean what you think it means.

Can confirm your comment about different body types. As a C-cup at age 13, I constantly had to worry about hiding my body and got looks, scorn, and worse from teachers (looking at you, computer science teacher who almost fell out of his chair checking me out) when I wore outfits with the same cut as smaller-chested…

What I have always wondered is who this 30% of men with 15 or more partners are hooking up with when 40% of women have 3 or so. I realize that everything is averaged out, but I have to wonder. They’re having sex with somebody, I seriously doubt there are a few women out there who have like a thousand sex partners who…

So sweet. What thoughtful neighbors. :)

For the record, there was a recent comedy special where he joked about rape pretty much nonstop for about 15 minutes, so some of that might be a reference to the skit and also the comedy special.

A falling tide drops all boats. ... Maybe if you are in a pink person boat, which may be bigger than the average brown person’s boat, you will have a better chance of survival when everyone is suddenly stranded. But that’s hardly the point, is it?

You actually *do* know why he gets a pass on that.

Let the record reflect that this is also my actual opinion. However, for the sake of argument, let’s just say I was making reference to the fictional account, and was extolling the virtue of the pineapple.

No, actually, my fundamental argument at the very beginning is that rape isn’t funny and that I hate Dave Chappelle for joking about it for 15 minutes.

Thanks for your thoughtful response! A lot of really good points. I’ll check out the book you referenced.

He wasn’t defending his life or property. The thief was fleeing. The threat had passed.

Three women per day in the United States are murdered by an intimate partner (not sure of the racial breakdown there), along with countless others who are beaten, raped, and strangled by intimate partners. We know that around 25% of women will be either beaten or raped in her lifetime (and that number is probably…

You’re right, and I don’t intend to say that white feminism doesn’t deserve criticism when it puts the interests of white women above POC. Again, the push for intersectionalism is aiming directly at that. White women have not suffered in the same way that Black people (CERTAINLY not Black women) have suffered - not at…

But Dave Chapelle wasn’t calling out women for voting for Trump, he was calling out this particular woman for saying that “women suffer too.” Have you watched the special? But yeah, too many white women voted for that steaming pile of worm-infested shit, you’re absolutely right.

It’s not a good strategy to find common ground? I guess I don’t understand what you mean, not to invalidate your point, or put you on the defensive. I’m trying to say that, as a method of pointing out privilege to, for example, white women, and maybe to illustrate the point that systematic discrimination is insidious…

So are we going to ignore the 10+ minutes of rape jokes and “sexism isn’t as bad as racism” during his last comedy special?

Except that the threat had passed. The guy grabbed her necklace, pushed her down, and then ran away. The threat was over when he ran away, the husband pulled out and fired when the guy was in the parking lot. But he was Hispanic, and the husband was a 71 year old white guy, and this is Texas, where brown lives are…