THE RETURN OF AGATHA. PRAISE THE SUN!
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You have any kids, WC?
*whispers* people with kids die alone in nursing homes. Having kids is no guarantee they will want to be around you when you’re old.
I’m 39 and I love kids but the thought of becoming a Mom terrifies me as well. I would start thinking about how I could be the best Mom in the world and my kid could still be a jerk. What if my kid just didn’t like me? Then I think about being old in a nursing home and then dying and the only people who come are the…
Thank you :)
Great piece. I’m pretty anti-kid right now but everyone has to make their own decisions. If you feel you can be a good father, then do it. I honestly don’t think I would, simply because I only have fleeting desires to have one and being a parent is a full time job. I’m rambling now, but I really think it’s good we’re…
At the end of the day having my daughter was the best decision I never really made. She popped up on me and truly changed my whole life. Good luck on finding the right person to create a life with may the odds be ever in your favor and what not.
I believe it, fam. For real.
In the end, isn’t it the selfishness that overrides all else?
I really want them to realize how insulting it is for them to drag their babies into a discussion where they were being problematic.
The expression “blood is thicker than water” originally meant that the bond between comrades is stronger than family, as in bathing in the blood of your enemies is a pretty powerful bonding experience, and it has been bastardized into meaning the exact opposite.
For real. I honestly don’t think kids owe their parents much, if anything. Why on earth would you bring a child into the world, and then vote AGAINST that child’s best interests, and still expect your child to accommodate you? Being the bigger person is great and all, but that doesn’t mean you have to sit there and…
That post was heartbreaking to read.
I know it’s not shocking, but it’s heartbreaking to hear someone talk about how their own mother chose whiteness over their children. And wanting to take you to a step-family’s Thanksgiving? Just gross.
Unsolicited advice from someone who survived a very necessary estrangement from her own mother: beware of anyone who attempts to convince you that you should be able to look past this. I wish someone had told me 20 years ago that “blood is not thicker than safety.” Thank you and good luck.
Good morning PJ. I had a similar relationship with my best friend’s mother until, for my own mental sanity I had to cut her off. My best friend is white and I am black and I am the godmother her children (if the unthinkable happens, my BFF wants me - and not any one in her family - to take care of her kids, lawyers…
*Hugs P3 and pours him some good brown liquor*
I get the drama with your mama thing just on a general level from hard-won personal experience. Also, you don’t have to agree on politics with your parents in general. That said, that your mom values Whiteness over her own kids and grandchildren are striking. Apparently, she doesn’t see anything in common between…
Good post, Peej!