At the time he had just finished accusing of her of saying something she didn’t say. She informed him she did not say that. He then told her it’s not what you say but what you mean and winked (?) at her as he said it which seems especially condescending in context at least to me.

I think men winking at women in serious or professional environments is pure sexist condescension. Especially when they’re mansplaining something when they do it.

Yeah well. Sometimes it’s not what you say but how you condescendingly and inappropriately wink while you say it, asshole.

Oooh, yeah I had one of those “friends”. She only wanted to hang out when she was between guys or wanted to whinge about the guy she was about to dump. As soon as the new penis came along she’d disappear. Only coming back again when the relationship had gone to shit. Eventually you have to say, “Sorry, but I’m not…

One of the simultaneously best and most terrifying statements I ever heard was reading a book by Geneen Roth, where a workshop participant said she could describe her history of relationships as spending fifty years trying to make the wrong people stay.

The problem with this guy is that he gives her juuuuuuuuuuuuuust enough to stay? Like he’ll talk about kids “in theory” but in practice he doesn’t accommodate her whatsoever. So he’s clearly NOT on a “kids” page. Because obviously you can’t just do what you like when you want when you have kids.

So I have been having this problem with a friend. She’s actually a lovely lovely girl. She seems to pick guys who.... well.... they aren’t abusive. She wants marriage and kids ASAP. She dates guys who are kind of man-children. The current one won’t ever stay over at her place because it’s “not as nice as his.” He…

ooof, she sounds like a hot mess. hopefully she gets her shit together!

Is she the type of friend that has terrible relationships but still doles out relationship advice where it’s not needed? Girl, nobody should be taking your advice. Ever.

A friend of mine went through a period of dating a string of scumbags and was entirely oblivious to warnings from other people. Gentle concern, hard truths, nothing got through to her. And then they’d treat her horribly, she’d spend weeks crying, we’d all console her for hours and hours on end, and then she’d hook up…

i think we have the same friend, except my now ex-friend sticks with one shitbag for way longer than any normal person would be able to tolerate.

Ha lol I have so many friend who date shit men and even though you tell them good advice on how they are good and these guys are horrible they never listen. I will continue telling them on behalf of myself, so I don’t look like an asshole but I have resigned to the fact that they are like addicts and if they can’t…

That’s not fair, you can ask that of literally everyone running for president in 2016.

Entitlement is a condition with many, many side effects.

Isn’t that kind of a Not All Men argument?

A religious institution behaving according to bronze-age morals? I am shocked!

This is ludicrous. and I dare ANYONE to tell me that they don’t pretend like they are modelling for J Crew while they hang out on the street wearing layered scarves and boots, holding a starbucks. It’s impossible.

you’re gross.

Awww! The underbite! The woolly fur! The little furry face!