Hey, I and many others “invented” this technique long before somebody got credit for it. Way back in the 80's, I used an egg timer and worked in 15 minute spurts. Still do. It’s the only way people with ADD can get anything done.

About that wine...I’ve been to gatherings where a guest presented conservative Christians a bottle of wine. Awkward. Many Christians and other groups don’t drink at all, so know before you go.

I think this is true much of the time but not all of the time. Some people are mean and catty because they learned the behavior from their families, so they aren’t self-aware and don’t know any other way of relating.