She’s choosing not to. We are supposed to give her a pass on that, why?

I get that, and oh man, if someone’s separating/divorcing or has an in-law with an axe to grind, yeah, that would be a whole other ballpark. Although as per usual, white people with money are at a greatly reduced risk, and the OP falls into those categories. So unless things with her spouse go south, she stands the…

Consider your feelings disregarded: internet rando gives you props and you’re just gonna have to live with that.

a 24-year-old guy named Kevin, a man of age who knows all there is to know about romantic and sexual relationships:

You reminded me of this lulzy thing:

Could not have said it better myself.

My first, instinctive reaction was to vociferously protest your first sentence there, but as a lifelong fannish person the truth is I’ve learned to avoid other people as much as possible while still participating in fandom. Avoid, avoid avoid. To venture into fannish friendships is to risk being slurped into the most…

I think people don’t want to think about the fact that a lot, maybe most, of the human beings who are raising other human beings on this planet are not self-actualized people who have their own needs met.

Well said on all counts Dr. Mrs.

You really do seem like a lovely person. You go have a glass of wine, you deserve one.

I am shocked by how these people are shaming and piling on you over this. Jesus.

I feel the same way, and I’m sorry your experience was shitty. It happens to way too many women. That happy medium, I want that.

I can pay you in pussy-bow blouses.

This! Granted I read the book like half my life ago, but I am sitting here scratching my head over how they could make a movie out of it. The whole thing was hallucinations pretty much, iirc, the heroine righteously freaking out and a scene with REDACTED (I don’t want to spoil anyone). Maybe I need to reread. (Or…

Oooh wow, thank you for highlighting this. I did not know.

Nicely done!

It’s like America fucked that one really ugly person at the party and now no one will look at them the same ever again.

I enjoyed that.