I understand completely. I got pregnant at 21 and had a miscarriage. My now ex husband was in Iraq when it happened, so we couldn’t try again for 7 months. Me getting pregnant put my older sister in a baby frenzy. She decided she wanted to be the first of us siblings to have kids. So she was trying for about 7-8…
My husband was supposed to have one of those varicocele repairs— they told us we would never get pregnant without it, and probably not without IVF. They showed us his sperm on a monitor and they were super fucked up, his counts/stats were low all around. I was despondent, and convinced that none of it was going to…
Thank you! Truly, this is a much more helpful response than what I normally hear: 1. Did you pray about it? (Not religious) 2. It’ll happen when you stop trying (100% sure that’s not how it works) 3. My friend’s cousin’s colleague had to do 8 rounds of IFV before they were successful (Awesome, that sounds great. /s)
I had no idea infertility would be as difficult as it is. Before we decided to try to get pregnant, I was all about fostering/adoption. My husband was the one who really wanted to try to make our own. He doesn’t ask for much, so I got on board. Now I’m totally invested in it, there’s not an hour that goes by that I’m…
I would never tell you that at least you can get pregnant. Honestly, miscarriage is my next fear. 1. Can we get pregnant? 2. Can I carry to term? So you’re just one car ahead of me on the anxiety rollercoaster that is making babies.
As a person who had a miscarriage only a few days ago, I am with you. Yes “at least i can get pregnant” but i’m not anymore right now so that really fucking sucks. I haven’t been on social media in days and all my accounts are deactivated. I’m having an impossible time being happy for people right now because i’m the…
I dealt with secondary infertility. Not the same as primary infertility but I can totally relate to the wild range of emotions. It becomes so pervasive, in so many ways. And at the same time, you feel like you can’t really talk to anyone about it. Oh, you got pregnant from spontaneous sex with your husband? That’s…
Ugh me too. I'm a constant mixed bag of emotions anytime I hear a new pregnancy announcement. Which, at my age, 31, is EVERY SINGLE WEEK. I almost literally can't deal with it anymore. Fingers crossed for all of us trying that we'll get to make our own announcement someday!
Long-time lurker, first time poster...but I am very much in the same boat. I feel like an awful person for my similarly mixed feelings about friends with good news (happy +hurt + jealous). It is so difficult to be failing to get pregnant when it feels like everyone in the world is expecting. And, SO SO lonely, since I…
Yep. Reading this made me really happy but with people I know it's more complicated. And then I feel like a terrible person for not just being happy.
it IS your business and thank you for replying to me. My husband is younger and this is something I stress out about on the regs, so. Thank you.
Not that it’s any of my business, but my mother had me at 40. Dad was 45. Older parents have mega perks too. I know she got a lot of shit from people for having a baby “at her age” but fuck those haters. My mum is bad ass and so are you.
I’m in a similar boat. A good friend and I both just had to go through surgeries (for different reasons) to try to get pregnant with our respective husbands. I know it is going to be hard if it works for one of us and not for the other. :(
It’s such a strange mix of emotions, hearing this news. Not for celebrities necessarily, but from friends— I am simultaneously over the moon happy for them, hopeful that another couple having trouble had success, and soul-crushingly devastated that I’m still not pregnant. An emotional Rubik's cube.
YES. I am an elderly lady (OK NOT ELDERLY, but at the age where having a baby might be difficult, but I still may try in 2016, cross yr fingers for me) and when people who REALLY want to have a kid are able to have one, it is definitely cheer-worthy.
Oh simmer down. It’s a totally normal thing because as a couple you are both excited to be having a baby *together*. A natural expression of their love and connection and all that. I always naturally said “we” though all 3 of my pregnancies; during pregnancies 2 and 3 the “we” included my other children as in “we, as…
Yeah, but...don’t be a dick.
They were driving high and endangering other innocent motorists on the road, sure I’d rather they’d not be dead, but fuck ‘em. These are the kinds of people who wipe out other people’s families simply because they’re getting their own jollies off.
So the 21-year old with a 5-year old was being irresponsible? Get out of town.