20 years is NOT quickly. This is a stupid comparison that has nothing to do with Sandy Hook. Start that discussion on a corresponding article, rather than derailing the discussions here.

Rather than disgusting, I'd call that downright logical! I'm curious, too.

Also, breastfeeding isn't really what makes the boobs sag at all! It's how much they grow (and therefore get stretched out) in the months of pregnancy itself. So even if you do formula, you have potential for sagging, if you're genetically prone to it.

I snickered!

Ah, that's fair enough. I did have a feeling there had to be more to it than just that!

I've had times in my life where I've felt this exactly. My 20s were very fraught, and I went for long stretches wondering why I would possibly hope for it to get better when it hurts so much more to be let down repeatedly. You aren't alone in this. Please talk to a professional. I promise you, it changed my life for…

I don't have much advice, but I do have commiseration to offer! I had a very tumultuous 20s, I constantly struggled with my shitty relationships and also very shitty behavior. Only after years of therapy did I figure out how to tell who was a good enough person to allow into my life, and also how to be a good friend…

Woah, woah... you sound just as bitter as the people calling having a best friend childish! Why are there only two ways to be, with only one being the correct one? I've had best friends in my life. I never found it childish. These days, my husband is my best friend. Just worked out that way, and I don't think that's…

Oh man, this has happened to me too! My best friend and I met when we moved into the neighborhood at age 4 and 5 respectively. We had a falling out in college, then reconnected years later. Ever since we've lived far away from one another — her in rural GA, me in cities all over the world — and drifted apart. We…

That teacher was a heartless sadist. I'm so sorry! I haven't had many best friends in my life.. maybe two and the last one we had a very painful falling out, so reading this article and the threds in general have made me a bit emotional as well. <3

This is such a great post. Thanks for making this VERY good point! A lot of these threads make me feel a bit down about not having that best friend in my life (or many friends at all in my daily life, since moving to a new continent really!). But this idea resonates with me and reminds me that it's not easy for a…

Ehhhhhh, I dunno. The way you yourself tell it, you may have crossed some serious lines by taking it upon yourself to write to a friend's mother, interfering in her family, a relationship you already know is fraught. Sounds like you should have stayed out of that one. And the second one sounds like you were pretty…

Yes! The rules nebulous and if you cross the invisible lines, you become weird. Nobody wants to be weird! I had much less uncertainty with dating.

Yes, this! If it's so tricky and complex and you just can't run out and find one (and it is), then it stands to reason there should be sites reflecting that.

Whatever it is, it's definitely rare enough to hold on to and nurture once you've got it! Still hoping for it here, too. Had it a few times in my life, but now at 32, my husband fills the role. Wouldn't trade him for the world, but it's also not the same.

I definitely understand and concur. My husband is absolutely my best friend, and I would not change that for the world. But he doesn't scratch the itch for female friendship that I still occasionally get. And the fact is, I moved to another country (another continent, even!) to be with him, and that has certainly…

disagree with catburgled as well.

Whaaaat, there are Jez meetups? I need to get in on that, if there are any in Orlando. Next year when I move there from Ireland, anyway.

Yeah, this seems like a total misread of her actual words. After my pregnancy with twins, my vitamin stores were completely depleted. It took at least 6 months of VERY intensively healthy eating to have a sparkle in my eyes and skin that wasn't dull. Or for the brain fog and joint pain, stamina issues, and general…

Totally!