My favorite part was when Ashley I. had a meltdown over not being invited on the Cinderella date and subsequently put on her Kardashian makeup and pageant dress as if she WERE going, but instead just wandered around the Bachelor mansion crying, drinking wine, and eating corn on the cob.

I just wanted to say: thank you for being patient with her. Vaginismus is so difficult to deal with, and the support of a partner is absolutely essential in combating it. She's very lucky to have you.

Wow, I'm so glad that this condition is getting more attention. I tried having sex for the first time back in 2012 and it was horribly painful. After that, I went home feeling like a failure and my boyfriend and I each did some research, which is how I first found out about vaginismus. I realized I had all the signs…

A long time, I've known about it and tried to deal with it and gotten frustrated and sad and basically it has a major impact on my life and how I live it, which is a major bummer. I am just too shy and uncomfortable to figure out how to deal with it in a legitimate way.

For what it's worth, the vaginismus.com site *sells* a treatment plan, so of course they will say it's highly treatable.

Thanks so much for this! It's only recently that I've come across it. I'm pretty sure it's what I have. I did however learn something from your article. Previous articles I read only mentioned therapy for abuse, and since thankfully I have no background of abuse I wondered why it was happening to me. I'm in my late…

Holy crap. I have this. I have been with my boyfriend for six years, lived with him for one, and we've never had sex. We have TRIED to, but it just physically wouldn't go in because I get so freaked out. I grew up Catholic and even though my head is completely progressive, everyone…

I'm sorry that you also have to deal with this condition. It's very tough, but you CAN take control of it!

Yay! I am so glad that you were able to take something away from this. The sources I talked to are truly awesome people that gave me so much valuable info to work with.

I completely understand the crappy feeling. I have cried "WHY CAN'T I HAVE A NORMAL VAGINA" on several occasions.

I've burst into tears after failed sexual intercourse. You don't need to be a rape survivor to feel humiliated and hopeless after one of these experiences.

Holy shit holy shit. I've never been able to use tampons and felt terrible about it, and all my attempts at actually having vaginal intercourse with people have been failures - it's difficult for the guy to 'get it in there' and I freak out and get uncomfortable or it hurts too much and I have to stop. Sorry for the…

Me! I can chat with you! And obviously it embarrasses me because I just made a new burner account to chat about it.

Yay, thank you for this article. Vaginismus-sufferer here! I also have generalized anxiety disorder/panic disorder, and I've always described it to people as "my vagina also suffering from anxiety". But I have found it is definitely treatable. Not curable, in my case at least, but treatable nonetheless.

I don't think I have this actual condition, but I do find it hard to get in the mood enough to "dilate", even if I am 'in the mood'. Add to that the fact that my partner is quite big, and it does cause problems for me.

This is my jam. I have painful intercourse that is primarily caused by a fissure that keeps re-tearing. I have had the thought that I am "too small". I have yet to find a gynecologist to successfully help me in stopping the problem. At this point it may be psychological as well, in that I'm unknowingly clenching or am…