But it wasn’t total chance and that was the point and what makes the whole situation so devastating. It was racism and white supremacy, not chance, for why Poussey and not Bailey ended up in prison. We see shades of that all season like for example with Piper using her white privilege to get Piscatella on her side and…

In addition, while I didn’t recognize it until well after watching, Bailey’s crime-climbing up the water tower while smoking weed -was basically identical to Poussey’s. Christ, would someone really be sent away for years because they hopped a fence? I so hope that’s extreme poetic license because it makes me crazy…

All I could thing was poor Aleida sitting at home listening to the news that an inmate had died but not knowing who it was...and feeling so helpless because she’s on the outside and her girl is on the in. UGH. DAYAAAA what a BADASS but come on, she wouldn’t....would she? Are the new inmates running the drug ring out…

Sorry to tell you this, but that's all I needed. I took care of myself during that finger sucking. so hot.

I dunno....I thought our date went pretty well...

Being a woman sounds miserable

I’m so sorry. :( Reading this made me sad for all little girls who get teased and vile hate for the mean ones.

This mother articulates a lot of worries I have about navigating being a sex-positive role model for my daughter while still wanting her first sexual experiences to be with someone who cares about her. I’m kind of a strange case in that I ended up marrying my high school sweetheart and only man I’ve slept with. So I’m…

My cousin, who kept her own last name, told her husband that the kids can have his last name when he carries them for nine months.

I know folks who combined their names into one, had a kid, got divorced, changed back to their own name and the kid kept the combined name...so that’s a clusterfuck.

No solution is perfect, but I think the best method is to have a best of seven Rock-Paper-Scissors competition. Both spouses get the last name of the winner, and so do the kids.

Then they should have your last name. You are doing the work to create the child, after all.

Changing your name on a lot of forms is kind of a nightmare. For instance, your passport. You have to time it, because not only do you have to jump through hoops, you have to wait for it to come back to you as well. You have to go through the process of showing up with your birth certificate, your ID, and your wedding…

My husband and I both kept our last names. We gave our daughter his last name, and our son my last name. I love this solution. People sometimes say, but the kids have different last names, how horrrrible for them! And I say, poo. They are fully aware that they’re siblings.

Went through the same dilemma a few years back. We eventually went the route of giving them the dad’s last name. Our culture being what it is, we guessed that if the mom’s last name were different from the kids, no-one would blink an eye, but if the dad’s last name was different, people would assume he wasn’t the…

Okay, so my oldest son has my last name (long story), my middle son has his dad’s last name and my youngest has 4 names (another long story), with the last two being my last name and his dad’s last name. My kids are all adults now and the conclusion I’ve come to? It really doesn’t matter what choice you make. You’re…

If your kids are anything like my husband, they may end up using your name anyway, even if it’s their middle name. My husband has his mother’s maiden name as his middle name, but it’s a lot easier to pronounce than his last name, so he ends up giving out the middle name a lot!

Further, even if you keep your last name professionally, use the same name as your children/husband. It makes stuff much, much easier with the school, etc., etc.

Northerner here, my middle name is my mother’s maiden name - she kept her last name when she married my father

Really, nobody is going to quadruple hyphenate. They’re just going to pick one or 2 of the 4 to keep. And if they’re being honest, I think most people would admit that it would sting just a little if your kid kept your spouse’s name and dropped yours. And if you have a messed up family situation, it might be a…