I’m sorry this happened to you. As you know, I follow you and I wouldn’t if you were a jerk to other commenters. Your comments are always interesting and fair. Until recently I didn’t even know that this “ don’t get so argumentative, POC” thing had a name: tone policing. It’s annoying and rude.

This is what happened to me. I just got greyed again because I made a stupid comment disagreeing with one of the staff. I didn’t think it was rude but I did want to voice my opinion about how that specific staff person’s pick was upsetting to me as a WOC. I am never rude to other commenters and though I will…