Sorry to hear that, fam, hopefully you meet someone better!

Living in New York has really left me with a skewed sense of what dating is supposed to be like. I look at my friends from back home (suburban Washington State), and many of them are married or having kids now. And yet, nobody I know here in the equivalent age group is doing that unless they moved here already in a…

Yeah, I’m about to end a relationship with my current girlfriend, as she told me that there’s essentially no future there. The physical aspects are great, but...nah. I’m not a fan of living with my emotional switch hovering between “ON” and “OFF.”

Yeah it really feels like there’s a huge reduction all around. Like, nobody is actually growing up or thinking about anything long-term anymore, and it’s like, damnit, did I work hard and get myself into a good place for nothing?

I think the cult of physical fitness has something to do with it.

At this point, it’s basically use apps to hook up, or nothing.

I’m also convinced that the rush to have sex early in a dating relationship has raised the stakes for everybody.

To me, this story, and the way it lays out the female experience of being considered undateable in our culture, points up something invaluable: That the feelings of rejection, anger, despair, even rage, are really similar between men and women. What’s different, of course, is how the protagonists choose to deal with…

Came down here to say this. It’s a generalization but it’s got a lot of truth to it.

Yes; the difference between “there must be something wrong with me” and “there must be something wrong with them.”

A too-wide generalization but one that may hold some truth here: Women tend to internalize pain; men externalize it. Both are dangerous for the person in pain, but only one of them is dangerous to the rest of the world.

No.

Do Republicans have any sort of perception of Obama that is grounded in reality, ever?

Usually wild accusations specifically about black culture start with “I’m not racist, but...”

Part of what makes him such a great communicator is how deftly he code switches. Even in a press conference when he flips from speaking very passively and methodically about a policy to being really personable and direct and informal just interacting with the people asking the questions. He knows that the tone you use…

“Respect your elders” is a huge sentiment in every community. Not sure it’s the outlier you think it is

Is that your primary takeaway from that video?

Uh... I grew up in New York, and I’m pretty much whitey mc white, but he ain’t doing nothin is a fairly common phrase, not relegated solely to the use of the pigmently endowed.

“Obama’s speech choices are getting more Malcolm X than MLK... or maybe they always have been on the sly, and I didn’t notice?”

I bet the protester’s head exploded when he was able to unironically say, “Thanks Obama!”