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Literally the first thing I wondered was “how is he not getting jumped right now?” My goodness what a piece of actual shit.

Not Tony Romo?

Yes - white girls, please gather your men.

I couldn’t even finish reading it. The childhoods of these men were horrific beyond imagine. Those reports are worse than fiction. That really adds even more gravity to very deeply disturbing situation. *shudders*

SHIT SHIT SHIT SHIT SHIT FUCK SHIT FUCK SHIT THE FUCK?!?!

Oh man, that would be awesome if she did one of those MTV Unplugged’s. Ppl would still find fault in her, though. How dare she be pretty, talented, Black, rich, wear blond hair, make Black music, etc etc?! Who does she think she is?

lol I totally misread that! I work nights 12+ hours, by this time in the morning  my brain is barely holding itself together.

If you don’t mind me asking, you wouldn’t happen to be anywhere near Seattle, would you???

I, for one, can’t afford to live at this level of concern for the next 4 days, let alone 4 years. I hope this info is accurate, but anyone can find anything to support their beliefs, regardless of whether it’s helpful or harmful. I do vaguely recall limits on refugee admissions in the past, but I thought it was during…

I wish I had thought of that at the time! But it’s true; any leader that would have employed this policy would lead to me freaking out just a teeny bit.

:(

I am seeing a therapist and I’ve been learning some tools to unlearn co-dependent behavior. Thanks for asking, bc I feel like I should have seen this coming from a mile away but it’s obvious I’d let my guard down.

He is a citizen, but even when I asked how he’d feel if he were denied re-entry he said, “I wouldn’t be mad if I couldn’t come back.” He’s from the Caribbean and is very nostalgic about his upbringing, though his mother said she’d never go back because it’s not the same.

Exactly! I feel like my family thinks I’ve “picked up” some of these things up by hanging out with certain ppl (like a bad after-school special) but that was never the case. My mother would tell you that since I began to form thoughts as a child, I’d always been confused about injustices in the world, and that…

I also have focused greatly on self-care: limiting news, praying and journaling, therapy. It’s a lot of work but it really keeps me balanced, and knowing all the hard work I do to keep from burdening everyone else, makes his insensitivity that much more jarring. If Mr. Momma is reaching his limit, then it must be…

Do you know if there is any way to call someone out on it? Because the few times I’ve tried to address it immediately, he comes off so innocent and “why do you get to say what’s on your mind but I don’t?” or “I have no idea why I said that.”

Thank you. I was really trying very hard to see this from my family’s point of view and just tried to deal with it by journaling and praying (like a good Christian, which is a can of worms in itself), but that shit still builds up.

You know, that’s what I tell myself, that he has boundaries that he’s entitled to maintaining for his own mental health. We do have a lot going on, but I did mention to him that I can have multiple concerns at once.

So I tried to discuss the very disturbing events of the past wk of Trump administration w/ my husband. Here’s the (very short convo):