I mean, I had a recollection of a rumor concerning this issue, but I was just...I never expected...this is just beyond...

Oh. Well, Jared Leto...isn't that something.

When did anyone, myself included, suggest an underage actor be used? The original post asked for someone who looked the correct age, which is the obvious solution, and I don't understand why you would continue to conflate that with a suggestion of an actual minor in the role, which would never reasonably occur to…

My god.

There is still the possibility that one person will say "S/he said yes!" and the other saying "No, I did not!" and one of them will be lying, but you will no longer have "S/he never told me to stop, so s/he didn't actually say no" and the other saying "But I said I didn't want to do that, and that *is* saying no" and…

His actual age is irrelevant. It's the age he can somewhat believably play that is at issue.

Yeah, casting a guy who is nearly 30 as a high schooler in this particular instance is a horrible choice. That's exactly what it's there to do. Jennifer Lopez keeps herself looking so young and fit it's like looking at a 35-yo beside him. Doesn't look squicky at all.

Wait. Is he at least 18, and not a former student?

He couldn't be perfect forever. He had the best run on record, though.

Be sure to mark your usage line with a Sharpie! Because vaginas are exactly like Hazelnut International Delight, and people will open them up, take a little, and put the cap back on and you'll never even know, if you aren't vigilant.

Not that I wouldn't like to make 170k/yr, but is that really what's passing for a gold mine these days? It's not like she's missing out on the high life, just the extremely comfortable for Atlanta life.

I would bang Dougal, the character and the actor, but his age precludes him from being the hero of a romance novel. I mean, I don't think Outlander IS a romance novel. But still, his age is a showstopper for that position in romance.

It's funny, but the reasons for a heroine's extended marital virginity have evolved:

I'm not going to look it up, but statistically speaking, that film, like most, was probably written, directed, and produced by men. It's a male fantasy, that men remain attractive to young women all their lives. Individuals vary, but the ONE medium that traffics in fantasy by and for women clearly shows that it isn't…

Thanks. Ramses and The Cat Bastet are my OTP.

I was thinking the actor who played Dougal, and typed Dougal instead. My point is that no matter how flattered the patriarchy might be by the thought, ain't nobody writing romance with a hero who, while attractive for a man his age, is still an old guy. Even today, when there's more wiggle room. When women's tastes…

Ah, now yes I can see that. What I was reacting to - and too strongly, probably, so sorry - is the idea that romance is full of rapey old guys and young women who fall for them because they're powerful, when old never meant 40 or over, and when this particular series was the one that broke the barrier for older…

Dougal is in his fifties. No romance novel would ever feature him as the hero. His typical role would be the too old first husband of the heroine, and his job would be to die so she could marry the actual hero.

I'm confused about what sex acts remain on the table here. Nipple play, unless this is not a gay relationship, in which case they would fall under the bathing suit area claise.