I have never been afraid of police. I’m a black woman from the Midwest. But I’m seriously afraid of them now. On related note, my 11 year old nephew learned that he was moving (just from the Midwest to the South but initially the though maybe they’d be moving out of the country) and his response to my sister was “I’m…

This will be the defining image. When the dust has settled this image will be the defining image of the killing and the ensuing protests. This will be the image white people will patronizingly hold up to tell black people how they should act in the face of overwhelming generational adversity and oppression. I mean big…

I read Knight’s book, the 3 women were each held in separate rooms. Sometimes they interacted, but it’s not like they were all locked in the basement together. Captor Castro also pitted them against each other, so that didn’t help. It’s not like they were a team that broke up after they were freed.

If Fox News did a segment on the “myth” of wage inequality where all of the anchors got together and had to lay their paychecks side by side to openly see who makes what, and then watch the ones who make more try to justify their higher wage to the lower paid anchors, I would watch the shit outta that train wreck.

“If you have to be extraordinary, be extraordinary.”

The more I learn about how fucking unjust our system is, the more I am shocked that there’s not MORE rioting in the streets.

My excuse is I hate spending money on anyone but myself, I don’t like spending time with anyone but myself. I’m in the best relationship ever... With myself.

Amazing date ruined!

So, I’m lonely. Pretty desperately so. None of my local friends ever want to do anything - hang out, go to a movie, go to a park, see a local event, do anything whatsoever - unless I’m doing them a favour. I thought back, and the last three times I’ve had in-person friend interaction were a month ago when I drove…

I don’t know if I’ll ever get out of the grays, but that seems fitting. I’ve hit the point in my professional and personal life where I just wish I could run away. Everyone annoys me; everything makes my toes curl up in dislike. I’m working through it in therapy, but I just wish there was a special runaway middle aged…

Typically on a Saturday night I would be drinking a bottle of wine while ordering take-out and eating it all. Sometimes around 11pm if I was feeling particularly sassy I’d go for round two and order a pizza. I’d be hating myself the whole time. Well, screw that. Today I tried on a dress whose dry cleaning tag told me…

I always look around at the other passengers before takeoff and think, “well, these are the assholes I could die with.” I fly 10x or so per month, so a lot of people end up being called assholes, but it works!

This was my mom’s “I’m safe now” move back when I was learning to drive.

I’m not afraid of flying but I do have emetephobia so being on an airplane brings out the fear that either 1) I’m going to throw up or 2) I’m going to see someone throw up. The first has never happened but the second has. I take a Xanax and nausea meds but I still get panic attacks anyway. Then again my life is pretty…

I remind myself that my death is absolutely inevitable, and that a plane crash would probably be a relatively painless way to go. During turbulence I close my eyes and try to reconcile myself to the eventual (and possibly imminent) cessation of my existence.

Not even joking. Though to be fair, I think about death a…

I don’t have an “I’m safe now” move during the flight, because I haven’t figured one out yet, but during landing, I close my eyes and press my right foot down as if I have control over the brakes. It helps.

I’ve been flying pretty regularly since I was 6 weeks old and alone from age 8, so I can’t recall ever being afraid. Being desensitized young probably helps, so even bad turbulence feels routine and mundane. But I’ve flown with people who are fearful, and depending on the person, I’ve tried things like holding a…

Exactly. In addition, when this list was floated a couple of weeks ago I said that they didn't necessarily signal dishonesty; sometimes a person will use one of those phrases as a transition to a more intimate discussion.

Great Article!