‘Citation needed.’

No problemo:
Günnur Karakurt, Ph.D and Kristin E. Silver, B. A., ‘’Emotional abuse in intimate relationships: The role of gender and age’’, Violence Vict. 2013; 28(5): 804–821.

‘’The findings of the present study suggest that men’s overall risk of emotional abuse may be increasing while women’s risk…

Why do the authors of the first 2 letters feel the need to state that they are bi? It has nothing to do with anything presented, and is completely irrelevant here. 

i could easily see a scenario in which the wife, for whatever reason, loses her labido and consciously or (more likely) unconsciously starts avoiding sex. in this situation being a hospital doctor probably makes that a lot easier- they tend to work long and often unconventional hours which would already make time for…

What I’m feeling, and I read support for this in your reply, is that its really easy to be decent when there are zero stakes. Having been a cheater, nurturing the side relationships are...blissfully simple. The constraints of an affair make it that way. There is so much hard work you don’t need to do with a side…

I think there are plenty of advice columns where you could write in and get scolded about it, but I don’t think that provides much utility to the reader (in terms of being interesting to read) or the letter author since I doubt that’s going to break through to them anyway.

The word “panties” is like the word “moist” - people say it and I just want to shudder away from hearing it. Ugh.  (I didn’t mean gross and offensive as in, like, actually morally bad.)

People get married so they don’t want to die alone and be left out of the life they see everyone else living. 

Agreed. Leaving the ethics of it aside, what she wants is advice on how to do something that just isn’t a good idea. Yeah, maybe it’s theoretically possible that OP could get the doctor to either leave his wife or twist her arm into blessing the affair and everything would work out in the long term, but what’s much…

Yeah, I don’t get how neither the letter writer or dan seem to once mention the cheated-on wife.  We only have Dr Sad Marriage’s word on how withholding/whatever she is, for all we know that could be a complete fabrication, and in either case, the letter writer is actively engaged in hurting another person, who she…

One of my former friends used to be involved with her married university professor. Professor Sad Marriage did and said all the same things: a deeply personal conversation followed by a romantic overture that was rejected by my friend, increasing amounts of time spent together, the “I’m trapped in a loveless marriage”…

As for the underwear thing - let’s all agree that the word “panties” is gross and offensive, no matter what.

‘’There’s no way that Dr. Sad Marriage’s wife is engaged in a sexless, non-romantic marriage and it’s never occurred to her to wonder whether or not this arrangement works for her husband’’

This is blatantly untrue. There are countless marriages like this around. It’s incredibly easy not to be ignorant of whether…

So, two things about the first letter. First:

Yeah, I don’t know what the ethics of an advice columnist are, but I feel like Dan should have been a bit more blunt on that one.

I realize that the answer to “How can I get this unfaithful and dishonest coworker out of his marriage without making him uncomfortable or jeopardizing our totally long-lasting and mutual…

OTHER seems to be both keenly aware of what is happening, and delusional in thinking it could possibly end well for her. This should be a huge red flag:

It’s nowhere near as great as Curb, but Larry David's Clear History movie is pretty enjoyable and features plenty of Jon Hamm as well. 

And yet Indiana Jones himself isn’t some soldier of God. He’s out for glory and notoriety. He makes moral decisions, like when his respect for history won’t allow him to destroy the Ark with a bazooka. But mostly, he’s a grumpy, laconic, wisecracking plunderer who finds himself fighting on the side of good almost…

Harrison Ford has always been the go-to guy for being tough but also human. When he gets hit or shot, it hurts. His physicality is vulnerable in a way most action stars can’t or won’t do.

One thing Spielberg has a real knack for (and it doesn’t get mentioned all that often ) is depicting violence. When an act of violence happens in a Spielberg movie, you feel exactly the way he wants you to feel. When someone gets shot in Raiders, it’s a punchline. When someone gets shot in Saving Private Ryan, it’s…

I was 7 when Raiders came out and my poor mom, not knowing much about the movie, took me and my even younger siblings to see it. That experience is my earliest, clear memory of going to the movies. I remember other movies, of course, including bits and pieces of Star Wars, but not in their entirety.