Forwarding to my husband. I have a really hard time with feeling like we SHOULD have sex, because the quickest way to make me not want to do something is to make me feel like I have to. It’s a stupid vicious cycle, because the more time passes without sexytimes, the harder it is for me to feel comfortable. It’s…
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Yup, and be open to suggestions from the less inclined partner. I care very little about spontaneity and a lot about mental space. I’ve caught flack in the past when I suggested making appointments for sex. Just like “hey how about Wednesday night?”. Or a text earlier in the day saying “how’s tonight sound?”. I can’t…
This is good advice! I’m one of those delightful people with a lot of sexual issues, and I know that a lot of people have trouble where one partner wants sex more often than the other, and it creates tension and friction, because one partner feels pressured and the other feels distant. I often feel pressured without…
It is important early in a relationship to develop simple plans and routines to encourage time together...time specifically for sex. It is also smart to work within a gender’s sexual rhythms opposed to against them, meaning morning rituals geared toward the male and evening rituals geared toward the female. This will…
You can try stringing initiation and foreplay out over the entire day, by exchanging kisses and meaningful touches, then tauntingly walking away.
A well timed article, thank you. My partner and I are going through a lull - he is lacking desire lately. We’d sustained ourselves on “do you wanna?” for a while, which is typically okay with the both of us, but I will try some of these points to make him feel more special.