“I did exactly as you said pop, I held my head up high” :’(

Currently AT work and in this wormhole.

“People. . . . when you are talking about rape, and you start to use the words only or just, stop and take a pause.”

God bless you for writing a comment that didn’t make me want to tear my own hair out.

Ugh, I’m so sorry. I have been struggling with the same thing since this sentencing came out and I’ve been reading about the case. I KNOW that my assailant doesn’t think he did anything wrong either. It’s such a difficult thing to process/understand when that night had such a huge impact on my life. It’s hard to…

Yes! I *just* reread it this week and it is so good and so hard to get through.

That was my faaaaaaavorite! I read it a million times. Best.

Yes! I do think part of it is coming from a pretty reasonable place. I find it somewhat flattering to be put on a pedestal initially, but then I’m very quickly like “no, wait, this is going *feel like work* to you at some point, I’m not perfect, let’s dispense with that notion right now!”. I think part of me thinks…

Of course! It definitely helps to talk about, and just organizing my own thoughts about all of it makes it seem at least a little more manageable. I can only imagine the transition from long distance to living together...definitely sounds both awesome and difficult. Best of luck to you! And thanks for sharing. It’s…

Oh man I totally get that, my boyfriend lives abroad and we have a six hour time difference, which does NOT help at all with any aspect of this!

Hang in there! I really do feel like things are getting better now that I can recognize that I’m doing it and let him know that I’m acting like a monster but it’s not anything in particular that he did or said. I’m sure it’s exhausting to be on the other end of all of this sometimes, so I try to be really appreciative…

Yesssss and then I feel like the worst person for causing that fight! Sometimes I think it’s because I’m having anxiety about the dynamics of the relationship, so I pursue this shitty conversation knowing that either I’ll be proven right that he doesn’t love me “enough” or we’ll make up and he’ll be really sweet and…

Oh totally. I don’t *want* to be that girl, and I hate seeing myself start to do it. I am really trying to be more mindful and give people the benefit of the doubt more but it’s a hard habit to break when I feel like I’ve been “proven right” so many times. Yay!

Yes! My roommate/platonic life partner is always telling me “you know you set people up to fail, right?” and it’s like...yes but I literally can’t stop myself.

Ugh I am feeling this way too hard right now and doing the exact same thing. It’s like watching a trainwreck I’m causing and still feeling totally unable to stop it.

Asking the important questions here.

WAIT WHAT ARE THE LYRICS?! now I have to investigate because I listened to that song this morning and totally sang that.

Ugh yes, it’s such a ridiculous double standard. These are the people that magically forgave Jax Taylor in between seasons, and they’re acting like Kristen is somehow a thousand times worse than anyone else in this insane cesspool of toxicity. I feel like Andy did kind of call them out by saying “what could Kristen do…

You are certainly not alone in not liking Ariana...she had no redeeming qualities for me this season. She was just kind of pouty/unpleasant and not funny or self aware at all.

I feel the same way! I can’t explain it myself either...I think it’s partly because I HATE James so much that everyone who hates him is a-ok in my book. Sandoval really drives me up the wall lately too, and his extreme reaction to all things Kristin coupled with his complete denial about how extreme it is make me want…