I think you can still feel your prostate, it just takes a lot of the pain out of getting up to a fist. I suspect some people are more focused on being able to take a fist or a huge plug than on how it actually feels.

I just saw last night on the Fort Troff website this throat spray that had numbing properties like a lot of fisting lubes. I'd grab a link but I'm at work. So y'know, if TWINK wants to do even more damage without even noticing, there's that.

Oh! And it's scented! I think it gives it a little something extra, don't you think?

When someone tells me they don't "do labels" it's usually a pretty good hint that we won't get along.

A group of guys in the dorms I guess wanted a club to recognize that they hung out together in the communal dorm showers. I don't remember the specifics, but after being approved as an official student org by the student government there were some accusations of sexual harassment when they tried to get some women to…

The purity vs. sexuality thing always irks me. I don't see sex as anything against god or the divine, or impure. I think it's an expression of spirituality and connectedness. Sex can be a mind-blowing and mystic experience, and to guilt people about their sex is inexcusable. I guess it goes back to the old immanence…

Complaining about being single is super attractive! (said no one ever)

Yeah if you're going to do something like this you probably shouldn't register it as a student org with your college. You can ask the "Shower Club" at my college about how well that went down…

Are phthalates really a big thing? The only person I've ever seen mention them is Dan…. The places I get my toys from aren't any more specific than "silicone" "vinyl" or "acrylic"

They also hold body heat really well, so they're amazing once they warm up!

Am I supposed to pick one or do all of these in sequence?

They also seem to be an mostly straight thing… In gay-land we just meet up at the bar in whatever we think is sexy. Most people just show up in gear and drink and chat, but if you're really determined to hook up you can do that too…

I suppose a less costly alternative for HSMTIT would be to make some friends, and find Dom's that could get his rocks off for free. Though that'd be an even larger time/emotional investment than just the money…

Sir and I switch fairly regularly, though we don't get heavily into degradation/role-play. So switching for us means instead of him tying me up, I tie him up. As a sub I can still appreciate seeing my Sir tied up, and it's fun seeing him have such a good time. There's also a revenge aspect to it as well, the meaner I…

I have lots of friends who pee in their sinks at home. It conserves water, and is less messy if you're pierced there!

Maybe some kind plumber will chime in about shitting where you work?

Haha, another site I frequent just switched over to disqus and some people there are flipping the fuck out… Small technical rant, nothing personal: I'm always confused around the fear people have of the term '3rd party'. I think disqus is a great product and a cool company with Open Source roots. What they offer is a…

I think it's interesting to hear how other people think about their sexuality and fetishes. I don't understand watersports but I indulge my partner, and I'm interested in what the appeal is for him so I can make sure that it is satisfied. It's good healthy discussion, as long as it's asked with an open mind.

They're using a 3rd party comment system called Disqus, you can set your notification options in the Notifications tab here: http://disqus.com/dashboard…

Less practical and more higher level advice: check out James Altucher's work, particularly his book 'Choose Yourself'. He writes frequently about people striking out on their own and how to deal with the anxiety/insecurity/depression/etc that comes with it. http://www.jamesaltucher.com