Just watched Star Trek IV the other day and was going to skip it because of how stupid it sounded and because I’ve seen jokes in shows mocking it, but glad I didn’t. The “well double dumbass on you sir” line got me to stay and Spock’s overuse of colorful metaphors won me over to that being the best Star Trek movie.…

George is about to escape and his dad’s hands are like “No.” Charlotte’s “smile” face is too cute. I don’t know what “thoroughly staged” even means. They got a photographer and a backdrop which is standard for many people’s holiday photos. Of course it’s staged.

As a rail commuter this is the kind of stuff that scares me.

I guess that’s all kind of a passive-aggressive way to approach things

The family members I see at holidays are fine, but they do not at all understand what it’s like to struggle with PTSD and anxiety. After years of trying different things, deflecting and sticking with the “everything is great” script has worked best for me (along with anxiety meds and sleeping pills). It’s exhausting…

Big Foot’s review at her program went far better this week than it did last month. She will be transitioning out of the program for good hopefully by the end of January with the warning that any court involvement will land her back in the program at the very beginning level all over again.

I went to a gumpaste flower workshop and 1) had an amazing time and 2) learned to make some incredible florals. I want to go again!!!! The instructor was so kind and sweet and fun and I learned so much! I had the hardest time trying to figure it out on my own and suddenly it all made perfect sense in class. I just…

No. You get to decide on what to share and with whom. Not her.

Will you accept a cute cat in lieu of a cute dog?

I’m considering cutting all contact with my family. My parents got divorced when I was 11, and my Dad’s casual alcoholism turned into sad, dangerous, life-ruining alcoholism. He just died last year of liver failure. My mom became totally uninterested in my life once I became old enough to have a personality. She…

With my trip across the country to visit families for the holidays nigh, I’ve had something on my mind. I am utterly dreading my mother’s social media usage. The moment we arrive, every single thing we do will be closely documented for Facebook. Every family holiday moment from presents to movies to food. Right now,…

Anybody have a little positivity (or cute dogs) to share?

So my husband’s late wife dated Harvey Weinstein back in the day- I mean 60s/70s. All I know is it didn’t end well. And, in light of recent allegations, he made a joke about it. Today, after stewing for about 3 weeks, I called him out on it. Didn’t go well because “nothing happened” (I HOPE THIS IS TRUE!!!) and,…

Weighted blanket for Little Grapes is done!

This week was not productive! I am in trouble!

Good news. I got accepted by Brown University! And fellow POC who I did a summer program with have recently gotten into Stanford, Georgetown and Cornell! So happy to be a lot more stress free and to see all this black excellence.

Holidays are coming up and my divorce is about to be final. I’m so sick of feeling so shitty. My husband left me for another woman after an above average to at times even great life together. Life with two kids and two full time jobs is hard. We had ruts. But listening to other people’s problems I always thought we…

I got one of those phone calls Thursday night from my mom about a close family friend, and holy cow, am I having trouble processing. God, what a gut punch. She was only 36.

Oh haaaiiii SNS! I was worried it wasn’t happening tonight.

Just like every year, we are going non-stop from Halloween to New Years with family gatherings, birthday parties, and events. But this year I’m starting out the whole thing with a stress level of like, seven? At least. Usually I’m starting at maybe two. So we’re cranking this bitch up past eleven this year and I’m…