That’s it right there. If a person looking for more honestly puts the same effort level into what they have (instead of more effort into scrapbooking, facebook, football, golf, another woman / man, porn or any other “habit” ) they might find they can get what they need.

Anyone interested in a more detailed analysis of what the “problem” is and some ideas of how to manage might enjoy reading a book by Esther Perel called “Mating in Captivity”