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“Should” is a real, emotion generating word and “should” not be used. Dr Albert Ellis says, “Don’t ‘should’ on yourself or anyone else!” I find that people are more often looking for sympathy than advise - that advise comes off as saying they were wrong, not the other person. There are also two levels, the primary…

“Let go of hurt feelings” would be better stated as, “dispute the horribleness of critism and failure and replace it with the thoughts ‘Everyone makes mistakes. I can use this to improve. Here is an opportunity to show my boss I listen to him/her and change the way s/he wants - for the better. If s/he is reasonable,…

Dr. Albert Ellis’ “Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy” is based on this principal. “Cognitive Behavior Therapy” is similar and came later. The core is that outside events do not cause our emotions - it is our judgements and beliefs about what happens (or happened) that does. When we really believe something is awful,…