Thank you for articulating the problem. When confronted with cold, unbiased facts there is a significant portion of the population who just goes “lalalalalalalala” then posts another offensive meme or skewed statistic. It’s infuriating.

For real though, then, what do we do? I’m a (foreign) white wife and mama,..My Black husband and I chose to bring up our kids in my home country overseas after I spent some time living in the racist South with him and his fam...a crash course in racial reality, that busted my white bubble completely.  

I’ve had such a hard time explaining to so many of my friends who the Nazis would absolutely come after that no, just because your skin is white, that doesn’t mean they wouldn’t put you up against the wall with everyone else they’re told to hate. People never think that far ahead. They want to think it’d end with the…

Jesus God of America. This gets all my rage. Willful ignorance just makes my blood boil. If you’re wrong, say you’re wrong. Own up to it. Don’t scream louder and stick your fingers in your ears. “La-la-la” isn’t a coherent world view.

The expression “blood is thicker than water” originally meant that the bond between comrades is stronger than family, as in bathing in the blood of your enemies is a pretty powerful bonding experience, and it has been bastardized into meaning the exact opposite.

For real. I honestly don’t think kids owe their parents much, if anything. Why on earth would you bring a child into the world, and then vote AGAINST that child’s best interests, and still expect your child to accommodate you? Being the bigger person is great and all, but that doesn’t mean you have to sit there and…

I’ve always been REAL suspicious that anyone who tells you you’ve gotta look past stuff like this is secretly harboring some toxic shit of their own and wants the reassurance you’d look past that too.

I know it’s not shocking, but it’s heartbreaking to hear someone talk about how their own mother chose whiteness over their children. And wanting to take you to a step-family’s Thanksgiving? Just gross.

Unsolicited advice from someone who survived a very necessary estrangement from her own mother: beware of anyone who attempts to convince you that you should be able to look past this. I wish someone had told me 20 years ago that “blood is not thicker than safety.” Thank you and good luck.

Good morning PJ. I had a similar relationship with my best friend’s mother until, for my own mental sanity I had to cut her off. My best friend is white and I am black and I am the godmother her children (if the unthinkable happens, my BFF wants me - and not any one in her family - to take care of her kids, lawyers…

*Hugs P3 and pours him some good brown liquor*

I get the drama with your mama thing just on a general level from hard-won personal experience. Also, you don’t have to agree on politics with your parents in general. That said, that your mom values Whiteness over her own kids and grandchildren are striking. Apparently, she doesn’t see anything in common between…

The article is pointing out the intrinsic problems in the culture that leads to a man claiming that is the mindset. Lindy isn’t agreeing with the point that’s clearly quoted; she’s pointing out that it is part of the trap that culture sets for women. A guy lamenting the lack of “purity” among women is admitting that…

No, quotation marks mean that I DIDN'T WRITE IT. Go yell at the guy who did, dingdong.

Uh, no, it wasn't an "ad hominem attack" (waaaaahhhhhh!!!!!), it was a sincere recommendation. If you were better at reading you'd notice that "the mindset of men in the 21st century" is in quotation marks. Which means I'm quoting someone. Someone else. Someone whose stance I'm critiquing. Which is the entire point of…

Read better.

It is a quote from the first article.

Attention guys looking for "good girls" - Moliere's "L'école des femmes" was written in 1662. So, for almost 450 years we've known that trying to raise up a "good girl" for your own purposes, b/c you're an insecure awkward social nightmare that projects your issues on to the women around you, doesn't work. …

Excellent. All the clapping gifs. All of them. This especially: The sexualization of women is only appealing if it's nonconsensual. Otherwise it's "sluttiness," and sluttiness is agency and agency is threatening and so, therefore, sluttiness must equal disposability.