"I say dumb shit all the time" doesn't defend or excuse you saying dumb shit. Stop trying to abdicate responsibility for the dumb shit that comes out of your mouth.

Actually…get a new name for your band, get a new drummer. ^-^'

I agree with everything but the smiling and nodding. I give side eye and refuse to respond until someone talks about something else. Seems to work well.

Wow. What horrible, horrible advice. Hey first LW! If you don't want kids, don't have them, and don't let anyone invalidate you. If someone said that she told her family she wanted a kid and they were pressuring her not to, you wouldn't question her choice. So freakin' typical.