Bullshit. If you’re willing to bang someone whilst drunk you’re willing to do it again. I do not give one shit about so called stats that say ‘everyone cheats’. Am I supposed to go through life and enter relationships thinking that it’s inevitable and if it happens I should just throw up my hands and say, ‘Oh well,…

Getting drunk and shoving your dick into places it shouldn’t belong is still wrong. If you do so you should face the consequences. If your partner cant handle you prancing around with your dick then you’re making the right decision just leaving her.

Whatever helps you sleep at night.

What I mean is that I think the “my partner would rather...” is kind of a red herring in the first place. If you are in a monogamous relationship, your partner would also “rather” you not cheat; if you do, you’ve already made the decision to do a thing that has hurt the relationship. Waffling on whether or not to tell…

How would anyone know it would never happen again? Your partner probably never thought they’d cheat in the first place, and yet, they did! Plus it probably gets easier to cheat after doing it once and getting away with it, and if they’re the type of person to cheat once, chances are they’re the type of person to…

Yeah. If someone just wants to be that selfish, I don’t really have anything to say to them (often can’t talk out basic moral differences) - but the self-deception of people trying to convince themselves they’re lying for purely altruistic reasons is sad.

I think the thing is, you never get to decide for another person whether or not they’d “rather know” or “rather not.” I don’t know how I’d react if my partner told me he was cheating — whether I would want to work it out, whether I’d need a break, etc. I might be really unhappy knowing. But he doesn’t get to pick for…