Nope. Or...only if they meet certain definitions of “hot” (no fat ladies like me) and only if they have super low standards.

Those clever, crafty women. crafty as witches or Dutchmen

No, of course not. Arguably nobody does. Ever.

When your upbringing and the expectations foisted on you distort your life and actions to this degree, you DO need treatment, even if you as a human being aren’t the source of the problem. People are in therapy all the time - and for good reason - when things are done to them, not necessarily only when they do bad…

He’s choosing his crappy religion over honesty with his wife. He’s choosing a religion that would excoriate him for cheating anyway (Catholicism would basically say “sorry, you’ve gotta be celibate then”) and pretending religion only matters when he wants it to (it matters vis-a-vis not divorcing, but not vis-a-vis…

Yeah, you know, I don’t judge him either. Just not up to it. People do things, he seems kind of dumb, but whatever.

I’m not judging him as I really don’t judge people in relationships I’m not privy to, especially if I don’t know those people.

I would be willing to bet many - maybe not most - of the men on the site DID have affairs, generally. Just not through AM as clearly that was a path going nowhere.

I don’t judge the vast majority of them for it. Their marriage, their business, not mine. Do not care.

I do judge the “Family Valuezzzz!” crowd who was on…

I am really sorry to hear that. Especially being threatened so much that you felt you had to give that information up.

Another solution if she starts up again is to give her the passwords to shadow accounts - I did this to an employer I suspected was keylogging my personal email password (use of personal email was…

My grandparents are generally good people but they also pull the “you got all those crazy ideas in college” crap.

They really did not like it when I told them that no, I’ve always been this way, I was arguing in favor of women in combat in junior high, I wrote an essay in favor of Bill Clinton in high school (sorta…

You could just block him from seeing those posts...

I’m quite curious how she had them through college? Did you go to school at home?

(If so, I’m so, so sorry. Nobody should have to put up with that)

I highly doubt I would have found someone else after I stopped looking. I wrote a whole long thing about why that is but don’t feel like commenting with another novel, so you’re just going to have to trust that I really don’t think so and I have some good reasons.

Re: changing one’s appearance and lack of respect, I…

I don’t think it’s a good strategy either, but I see it happen all the time and I see women who don’t employ it stay single, often forever. Which is fine as far as I’m concerned, but if getting married is a priority, it may not be fine to them.

I wouldn’t say so - or rather, a lot of them are good men, but not the…

There are a lot of eligibility requirements, like being full time, the company having more than 50 employees, being salaried rather than hourly (I think), being a formal employee (not a contractor or adjunct), not being in certain industries (like service) and having worked there for a year...all for **unpaid** leave.…

What I’d like to know is why they were washing the cat in the first place. There are reasons to wash a cat (too old to wash itself, got into a muddy or skunky situation outside, some times of flea issues), but usually, it’s not necessary.

GRAMMAR MISTAKE MAKES ME WANT TO STAB OUT MY FUCKING EYEEEESSSSSZZZZZ

I have peed sort-of standing up, like kinda squatting with my legs apart.

My go-to response for those “What did she expect” folks is “...to not get raped. We should always expect and be able to expect that no matter the situation a man is not going to rape us. In a bar, alone with some other guys, on the street, in a car, at home, whatever, it’s his job not to rape.”

I agree. The thing is - and I think you get this too - if you want to get married at all, and that’s a priority over, say, staying single because you didn’t meet just the right guy, and the majority of guys are conditioned to be shallow, then if “getting married” is this huge priority then it sort of follows that…