Hey, that actually happened to me. My parents were quite secure in the liberal, “Jesus is love” Christianity I was raised with and I was allowed to learn, roam, travel, read and socialize freely. They were quite secure that I would grow up to follow the values they’d so carefully taught me.

...I’m an atheist.

So...

Families where parents maintain more control that are not cult-ish still let their children experience, explore, and learn about the outside world and other beliefs.

A friend of mine actually went to school with her, but they didn’t know each other really. But, that friend has nothing bad to say about her from first person experience or class rumors.

It is accurate...for me.

Person with no baby here...

I would love to be able to think of it that way too, but...even though I have an incredibly strong marriage, what happens if...something happens? Whether that’s death or divorce or what? If I’m not earning money, what happens if the person who does is suddenly not there? Or what happens if he is there, but something…

I would too - though I’d probably go back to work on my own terms eventually after a good long break and some further education.

As I see it, the issue isn’t not wanting to work. We’d all love to clock out permanently! The issue for me is the feeling of someone else bankrolling it. Even though I trust my husband…

A lot of people who say things like that (“a feminist nightmare”) would probably be wise to say what they really mean: a nightmare FOR THEM. Your life sounds fine for you. That’s cool. But it’d be a nightmare for me. Just personally speaking.

Not the “professionally not working” part...I wouldn’t mind not having to…

Exactly. I wouldn’t defend sexism in the Middle East, certainly that part of the world has its share of sexism...but it’s not like America is the land of the sexism-free. It AIN’T.

While there is no shortage of sexism in the Middle East, certainly the sexism pervasive here and elsewhere is not entirely the result of differing gender expectations in foreign cultures. We plain Jane white Americans sure have enough of it too.

Hey don’t equate us sophisticated news consumers (I like to think or at least pretend I fall in that group) with people who read The Economist. Because although I have a very good friend who works there, honestly, most of it is neoliberal pro-capitalist bullshit. Also I live in Taiwan and they can’t seem to properly…

Seriously...I just...I mean it’s shitty to have to fire people, it’s shitty to be in the position where you have to lay people off. But to then go out of your way to do it in the cruelest possible ways...

I wore fuchsia dupioni rough silk with gold Chinese brocade and a cream and gold Japanese obi embroidered with cranes and peonies at the back (I had it all tailored so the beauty of the fabrics came out but the design did not reek of cultural appropriation, just appreciation of gorgeous patterns).

For the cheaper dresses, sure...you get what you pay for. You pay peanuts, you get crap.

I just thought “why don’t they call it Frappy Hour” then thought “wait that sounds...not right”

In Taiwan even the Chinese is pushed around - a “tall” is a “medium” in Chinese, and a “grande” is a “large”. A venti is an “extra large”. I think a true “small” is available if you ask.

But I see the logic, by Taiwan standards the tall is what they’d think of as a medium. The grande is considered huge by local…

No reason to feel sorry about my experience. My point is, what works for one kid doesn’t always work for another, and so one parenting strategy is never, just by the nature of parenting individual children, right for everyone. It may have worked for your family but it was a disaster for mine, so it can’t be touted as…

I hate green bell peppers. They have to be red, orange or yellow. If you serve me green bell peppers I will pick them out. I may send the dish back as their nasty flavor infects the rest of the food they are cooked with.

Avoid okra, natto and Chinese shanyao.

I tried chicken sashimi once. Yes, you can get that in Japan.