Because "we/us" knowing and that person being charged are 2 different things?

Or NightTrain.

Ok but seriously though - why rehash an article from 2 days ago and not add anything to it? Isn't that pulling a shitty move on your fellow Jez writer?

My bad - meant to reply to the original post. Hope you find love :)

This was posted on Saturday.

Aww, poor John Stamos. My 13-year old self will metaphorically rescue him. (not judging you though, this dude is hot).

Pot smokers are as annoying as vegans in that they want to talk about it/show it ALL OF THE TIME!! OMG, I'M SO INTO THE WEED, MAN.

How gracious of him, she's annoying.

It clearly says it was a FRIEND of the guy who inspired it.

Thanks dear, sorry you're dealing with it too but I appreciate you chiming in on this...every little bit counts and helps me through it so I appreciate your take.

Maybe not - it's new for both of us, so I'm not ready to hang him for his approach. It hurts, but maybe he doesn't know how this works.

Thank you for your comment - you're right. I guess I just needed to feel a little less adrift and alone this evening - I appreciate your posting.

Not mad at all! I totally understand where you are coming from, thank you for your input. I suppose I am squarely in that space where there are 2 people involved here, one who has ZERO understanding of what constitutes drunk, and the other being the drinker - so I'm open to any and all opinions even though I really…

I think so, and that's why I feel so underwater, because it's something so strange to him that isn't really so out of place to most people. But that's allowing myself to feel sorry in a way that I think I shouldn't, so I'm trying to avoid that line of thinking. He says I'm self-indulgent, so I try to avoid…

Maybe - and thank you for your post. It might not matter much since he's not a drinker and any wine=bad wine - not trying to make him out to be a bad guy though. I guess I could just go cold turkey - and truly, it wouldn't be the worst thing ever, I just kinda feel like I shouldn't have to, but what's more important…

No, I get it - you're right, there's probably a compromise I can reach on my own that is going to satisfy things....truly, it's not about bending to his "will " - this is my husband of almost 20 years and I'm not much of a bender to wills - I wonder if maybe I should even broach it or just let it happen and assume…

So this is where I am now, and while it seems disingenuous, I think I need to do it...I think I just need to curb my weekend drinking to a point where he'd be comfortable for now - but I'm not willing yet to erase it completely (does THAT mean I have a problem?)

I can't tell you the times/years I've wished he were a drinker of any volume just so that this might not be an issue. But I truly do believe that his total lack of drinking/recreational vice makes him hyper-critical of it in me. We're not new, we've been married for almost 20 years now...I feel like he's lashing out…

No, I can honestly say it's never more than a bottle a day, and I THINK it's just because he doesn't have a thing to compare it to.. However, there's a voice in my head that says "well hey, isn't that what drunks say to justify their behavior?"

Thank you, I totally get what you're saying. I actually don't drink at all outside of home and I just have wine on the weekends. No excuses though - I DO drink more than he is comfortable with.