I agree that no one should settle for less if that isn't what they want. I also think that it's OK to recognize that women vary enormously and have different goal orientation toward sex. I think that it's OK for women who find orgasms elusive to not worry about it... I have a friend who years ago was pretty…

That's an unfortunate symptom of our Uber-male programming.
we're told we're either selfish shits who care only for their own pleasure or awesome conscientious orgasm giving guys.
There is no in-between.
And unfortunately for many men it becomes a test of their ego.
It becomes less about seeing a partner satisfied and…

Good for you?

Don't feel bad! If inside, you are relieved, happy, or just don't feel guilty- that's normal and you know this, the majority of how most women feel so don't let others brainwash you into thinking you're a terrible person in any way. Also, I completely understand where you're coming from because there's that stigma and…

It wasn't a lie, but it was an omission. I went to a school in a liberal NYC suburb, so we had excellent sex education starting in 5th grade. But for 5th grade the boys and girls were separated, and while the girls were learning about our periods and how to use a pad and a tampon, the boys were learning about…

I teach consent workshops and read a lot
about best practice sex-ed, and in my travels I've heard a lot of terrible stories about abstinence-based, anti-sex programs.

That's fine and all, but, there is nothing immature about feeling strongly about "your body, your decision." I say this as a finely seasoned 43 year old.

"Politician Files Lawsuit For Concealed Weapons Permit. Background Check Reveals Prior Rape Charges."

I admit that I personally believe that this dude is probably a rapist. But we're dealing with technicalities here - with whether or not he completed a form with the correct information. It's all bureaucratic bullshit. And like I said in my comment, if you want to talk about how shitty our legal system is period…

If you plead guilty to a withheld judgement it means you are guilty and the judge is allowing you a probationary period to expunge your record. It's your implying that because he was given a withheld judgement that the case had no merits which is promblematic and a bit disturbing, since not every case is the same....…

I have gotten involved with a guy with a SO one time in my entire life (and it was a huge mistake), and it involved a lot of him lying about the status of the relationship with his girlfriend, and convincing me that he was planning on leaving her. I feel like this is probably pretty common in these situations. …

They're out there for sure! But if it takes more than the committed members of a relationship to keep it committed, something's wrong with that relationship.

I say this to every guy I'm with who seems to get really focused on "making me cum": I don't have sex for the orgasm, I genuinely like being penetrated. Orgasms are great, but not every sexual act requires them. It's pretty annoying when a guy is super focused on that, like me having an orgasm determines his worth as…

This video has an attorney who says that invited guests actually do have a reasonable expectation of privacy in another person's home. http://www.spike.com/video-clips/9p…

I'm a kiwi and am outraged and embarrassed by these rapists and the cops for not doing their damned jobs as, I'm sure, are most New Zealanders. However, I feel like a lot of the comments about this story are saying we're all a bunch of assholes and sexist pigs in NZ when actually we're not all like that and those…

I'm not a big fan of trigger warnings personally, and I think some sites overuse them to point of ridiculous, but the idea that the fact that some feminist sites use them is going to set women back half a century is ludicrous hyperbole, and you're damned well smart enough to know that.

Yeah, when doctors tell you that you can't get pregnant, don't believe them. Unless you are over 60 or missing your ovaries, tubes and/or uterus, a doctor can't tell if you can't get pregnant.

Yeah. Because it's totally worth incarcerating millions of (mostly black and brown) people just to make sure that privileged white youth culture can still perceive itself as cool. What the fuck is this fucking article?

The selective enforcement of drug laws, which largely victimizes people of color, is a lot more problematic than the possibility of it NOT BEING COOL because it is legal

"I don't weep for children who quite possibly carry the genes to be just as evil."