This woman did not have an abortion. If she had, that would have been o.k. which is why you think it is o.k. Someone drugged her for the purpose of terminating her pregnancy against her will and her knowledge. What was done to her was very similar to a physical assault on her body that had a pretty extreme impact…

I missed the part where Dunham or her character said that people are "mean girls" for criticizing her. Where did the rant about women's criticism being seen as infantile and less serious come from? In my opinion, Dunham is taking the criticism from Jezebel more gracefully than Jezebel is taking it from Dunham. This…

For me, this whole article boiled down to "how dare Lena Dunham have an opinion about Gawker and Jezebel."

As a footnote to my previous comment (doesn't matter the order you read these), according to an American commenter elsewhere in the comments section, only 4 or 5 states consider the right to parent in family court. I haven't looked into it to verify, but chances are you live someplace where you "do not have a say in…

Ummmm... That's not quite how it works, buddy. The parents are not without input, they present evidence to make their case when they IRRECONCILABLY disagree with each other, and mediation is usually attempted before it even gets that far. They just don't have the guaranteed right to custody or visitation of their…

Black people in America have a higher instance of high blood pressure. It was an advantageous trait for captive Africans to survive conditions on the boat on the way over to America. The artificial selection for certain genes that happened way back then is still apparent in the population. It is not about race, it…

Right. Believing that women should not be allowed to terminate a pregnancy at a certain stage because you believe the fetus is an autonomous person at that point is different than believing that a man should be able to veto a woman's decision to have an abortion. I'm satisfied to agree to disagree with you about the…

I sympathize with your brother. That is really sad. Men can be very emotionally invested in their partner's pregnancy and the idea of becoming a father. It's really sad that she didn't give him an opportunity to express his feelings about it so they could attempt to come to an understanding about it beforehand, for…

In some cases it is necessary to incapacitate an attacker. If it is a man attacking a woman, or an adult attacking a child, or three people attacking a man, gouging eyeballs, crushing the throat, shattering testicles, fracturing the skull etc... are completely appropriate despite the lasting health consequences they…

I compete in a weight class sport and I've learned that women have a disadvantage not because they can't gain back as much of the weight that they've cut, but because they can't cut quite as much weight to begin with. It has to do with body fat. The amount of body fat that women and men's bodies will hormonally…

When I was 15 I dated a guy who was 24. He was my friend and he really liked me. I couldn't figure out why I wasn't attracted to him. He was good looking enough and truly kind, generous and open to all the other people who spent their days and nights in the park downtown, regardless of race or class, old addicts…

Maybe you should leave him with your grandmother for a week. She would learn to be less judgmental.

I'm with the others who think that you should trust yourself. The fact that this one seems different is likely because it is different. You also seem like a pretty safe person for your husband to be honest with, even though it would be difficult for him and it would hurt you, which is a good place to start. I have…

The sport I am talking about isn't gymnastics. I was deliberately sparse on the details so as to avoid publicly accusing anyone of anything. I imagine that exploitation of the resources of the local and national associations and federations that an athlete competes under would be a motivation for doping in any sport…

My coach is pretty sure that the woman who won the national championships was doping at the time. My sport is relatively obscure on my continent and even more so in my country so our national federation just doesn't test, even at the national level of competition. She went on to compete in the pan am games and her…

"Trusting that someone will act like a decent person is never a moral failing."

I wouldn't worry about it if there were leaked pictures of me on the net either. I think I could overcome my socially conditioned shame response and I think if I lost any relationships over it, I'd consider it a blessing to have people's true colours exposed, even if I have to grieve for a little while. I don't know…

I gave my high school sweetheart a photo a long time ago. I didn't ask him not to show anyone because I thought that went without saying. When I found out that he showed at least one of his friends, I was understandably upset. I told him I was going to feel embarrassed every time I saw his friend and he told me…

I didn't say you are an awful human being, I said you are a flawed person. If you are still not getting why people are saying you are fucked up, I can't help you understand that and it's likely just not something you are willing to accept. Some of the other posters have done an excellent job of explaining it, and…

She was super immature in the way she went about leaving you. That said, nothing is just everybody else's fault. Life doesn't work that way. Your attitude towards these intimate pictures that you have of hers is really unhealthy. She gave them to you as a gift when she felt affection for you and it sounds like you…