You do realize saying that upon death certain truths are realized is a matter of faith. 100%. It removes all reason from the conversation, which is fine when discussing faith, or pontificating on hypotheticals about the spiritual nature of life and death for our own amusement. I thought we were discussing the…

That's faith. I misunderstood you or I wouldn't have engaged you further. Take care.

I think you need to realize that every woman's experience is different. There is no "understanding" that every woman comes to "eventually". Your personal feelings and experiences are perfectly valid, and thanks for sharing, but please don't make the mistake of insisting to other women that your feelings and…

The CPC style part of your argument was not the one about using birth control, but the one about how you'll regret abortion later. I do respect that you are pro choice despite your personal discomfort with abortion (not CPC style at all). In my personal experience, after 15 years I have a tough time imagining that I…

I never felt guilt or regret but I thought I was supposed to. I dwelt on it more than necessary to try and conjure those feelings and it just never happened. I thought I was such a weirdo. My only emotional struggle was due to the fact that I wasn't emotionally struggling.

I understand if you want to take a break from this conversation. You can reply a year from now if you want to and I won't think that's weird. I'm interested.

The discussion here is interesting, but keep in mind it is a contest put on by a hook up facilitating website for college kids. I don't think they put a whole lot of philosophical energy into it. They wanted crazy sexscapade stories from kids (I'm old enough to call them kids, you know what I mean) and picked a nice…

Is she really achieving cultural success? I am from Canada, and from my perspective this woman does not even bother to try to be "modest" enough to not be regarded as a piece of shit by people suffering from internalized misogyny (which is most of us) or attempt to project just enough interest in sex, but not so much…

I'm totally with you, pickupflower, except that the author really did undermine her article by calling him a convicted rapist. I would confidently call him a rapist, but he was not convicted of rape. It was bad journalism. What he was actually convicted of is bad enough, there was no need to embellish. It is as…

I didn't find the tone of the article at all judgmental. I think the story is certainly worth reporting to the Jezebel audience because of the prevalence of slut shaming and this woman's seeming lack of concern that she might become a victim of it. The story merits discussion on this site. I'm interested where you…

It says in the article that the guy is a convicted rapist. That is NOT TRUE. It might arguably be appropriate to call him a rapist, but to say he was convicted means that he was found guilty of rape in a court of law. What he was actually convicted of is terrible enough. To be so intentionally factually inaccurate…

Criminal prosecutions and law suits are not the same thing, dude. Victims do not have the power to charge people with crimes and the DA doesn't give a shit how rich this guy is. Criminal prosecutions don't result in anyone getting a pay out (except for the guy's lawyer), and I don't see anything in this article…

Keep in mind there are most likely legal precedents where it has been decided in a court of law whether or not someone has a reasonable expectation of privacy in another person's home. The fact that it's arguable amongst us lay people does not indicate the strength or weakness of the case. Precedents will likely…

Way up here in Canada, I have read "a lot of shitty things about" the U.S., "racism, bigotry, sexism, homophobia... just an asshole-fest." I'm sure these are problems in most countries, especially ones with a a patriarchal and colonial history, including Canada (gasp!). New Zealand, and New Zealanders are likely…

I know people don't spend much time editing their posts and you are totally forgiven, but "athletic rape" should be "athlete rapists". "Athletic rape" is going to give me nightmares. I suppose the idea of athlete rapists is still disturbing, but at least it describes a person who does something instead of painting a…

In Canada this would not be true. Perhaps between two eleven year olds, but even then I doubt that they would be considered by law to be two rapists, they would be determined inculpable for their actions as would likely be the case where you live.

It is NOT unusual for women to use inanimate masturbatory aids outside of porn. There are 3 stores in my smallish city that are filled mostly with objects for masturbation. I am almost 100% sure that porn actors/producers are not their main clientele.

I would classify your vibrator as animate. At least while it is running.

Part of the problem is that, of course everyone thinks rape is wrong. But, girl is in guy's bedroom? Probably not rape. Girl is drunk? What did she expect. Flirting with him all night? Sending confusing signals, the affirmative ones carrying heavier weight than the word no. Wanted it and then changed her mind? …

Legally, I'm not a lawyer, but my best guess is that what happened would be considered rape from that perspective. That being said, I think we need to get past the idea that rapists are boogeymen. They are not (well, maybe sometimes). They are our friends, colleagues and family members. I think we are under the…