Legally, I'm not a lawyer, but my best guess is that what happened would be considered rape from that perspective. That being said, I think we need to get past the idea that rapists are boogeymen. They are not (well, maybe sometimes). They are our friends, colleagues and family members. I think we are under the…

"like if two 13 year-olds have sex, they are quite literally considered to have raped one another."

The goal of schools dealing with rapists themselves is the protection of the victim so they can be successful in school, not punishment of the perpetrators. Criminal proceeding can take too long for that goal to be achieved, and the burden of proof is lower in school tribunals. Ideally, there is also some potential…

I can think of two examples where I've heard guys doubt a rape claim by default, once with no facts to go on, and once where they knew the woman as an intimate friend. The one was when Mike Tyson was being prosecuted for rape and my then boyfriend said she's obviously a gold digging liar, because he's rich and famous…

Stick up for yourself. If it's uncomfortable in the moment, at least complain to the supervisor. I know it's hard to be confrontational sometimes. I like to think I'd be all badass in the situation you describe, but I might quietly chicken out and just leave a complaint with her boss.

Regarding make up sex, I think it is totally escapist and a desperate way to avoid having to truly deal with the issues at hand. It helps two people temporarily ignore the fact that their relationship is dysfunctional and ease the anxiety caused by the idea of severing the connection, until the next fight that is. I…

Please tell me you've switched gyms and told them exactly why.

I've never been bothered any more than at any other place. I can think of one patronizing comment, 3 times where guys have stared at me for an anti social length of time, twice where I was given unsolicited advice (that was actually appreciated and later confirmed to be accurate), once where a guy inappropriately…

The problem isn't sex, it's rape. Rape of CHILDREN. I'm with you that no one should have to be celibate to keep their job, but pedophiles who are married to adults are still pedophiles.

I encourage you to ask your trainer if they have ever helped someone get an unassisted pull up using the assisted pull up machine. If the answer is no, or yes-one or two, your trainer has had some good luck, but not a proven method. I know of a proven, reliable method, and I can tell you why I doubt the efficacy of…

I celebrated it. I found it really interesting that she tried to have it professionally done, but ultimately she realized she could do it herself, which was awesome.

I like your take on it. The fact that wives submitting is specifically mentioned, and the part in Genesis (the only part of the bible I've actually read, oh, plus a smattering of one of the gospels where Jesus actually talks) where God decides that Adam will rule over Eve (what a nonsensical decision that was) are…

The associated part about the role of husbands is irrelevant. It might help us sugar coat the fact that the bible teaches that women are required to be submissive and obedient to their husbands. That is wrong, regardless of how nice a guy husbands are required to be. The fact that if everyone followed the koran…

I'm pretty sure victims do not press charges in criminal cases. Police investigate and press charges if they feel there is adequate evidence, sometimes police investigate and prosecutors make the decision whether or not to proceed based on the likelihood of conviction. The victim could choose not to cooperate with…

Holy SHIT!

Harper has explicitly stated sometime within the last couple of years that he does not want to reopen that debate. When the Liberal party was in power for those many years, the Conservative party tried to keep their more socially conservative candidates mouths in check, knowing that a majority of Canadians are more…

There is a survey study of college age males that showed a rather alarming number of them who answered "yes" to having done something that fits the legal definition of rape but without that word included in the question, and when asked if they've ever raped anyone, answered "no". There are people (I have met one who…

A few years ago, an RCMP (a police officer in Canada's national force) was either fired or reprimanded, I can't remember, for taking part in a very kinky pornography shoot involving a gagged and hog tied woman with his foot on her back, wearing nothing but his Mountie boots. Nothing about it was illegal. It could…

I have a girl friend who uses PMS as an excuse to be unapologetically bitchy and rude. When you call her out for being bitchy and rude, her response is "whatever! I'm on my rag!" instead of, ya know, "sorry." She's part of the problem.

Making a judgement on behalf of another person as to whether their unplanned pregnancy is a blessing or a royal fuck up is wrong. It's none of your business. Saying to someone that they are ruining their life by choosing to keep it is like saying that every child is a precious blessing from god to someone who wants an…