If I am ever sexually assaulted, I have resolved to report it to the police.* I will expect them to strongly suggest that they think I'm lying, I will not expect an investigation, arrest, charges, prosecution, or conviction. I will do it as a favour to them so that they have his name and a statement of what…

Nothing has changed. Girls were being sexually assaulted by their peers in the 90's and before. Most boys know and care about the difference between right and wrong which is why you and I came out unscathed. I think there is more light being shined on to this issue recently, which is a positive thing.

I wasn't referring to her as a victim, I was referring to victims in general who face the idea that if they don't appear traumatized in a certain way or if they don't go to the police, people they share their story with will use that totally irrelevant information as evidence that what they are saying isn't true. You…

No, but the fact that she didn't go to the police is not evidence that her claim is unfounded. It might seem weird that she wants to go back to her gym, but we don't know any details of the sexual assault. She probably wants to go back to living her life as usual and she may feel confident that she can evade the…

I had a roommate who used to be rude and when I'd say "Hey! WTF?" she'd say "Whatever! I'm on my rag!" And I'd say "You meant to say 'I'm sorry', right?" People have all kinds of reasons for feeling how they are feeling, and that's o.k., but there is never a good excuse to be a dick (that goes for both of you).

Glad to hear your balls are nigh invulnerable. My husband is jealous.

Women don't have what would ideally be internal organs but for some cruel joke of nature dangling on the outside of our bodies. I've crotched myself on the crossbar of my bike. I had bruising of my pubic bone and general bruising and some laceration of my external genitalia. Men can relate to these injuries, they…

That is horrifying. I'm so sorry that happened to you.

She wants the employee fired. She doesn't want to go back to the place where he is, but she does want to go back to her gym. Police have a bad track record when it comes to dealing with victims of sexual assault. There are police forces that have been dedicated to improving themselves in this regard and they have…

You guys handled that really well. Some people would sympathize with the stranger and express embarrassment at their child's reaction. I guess that's part of how girls become socially conditioned to ignore their feelings and be overly accommodating of others. The best thing you can do to keep your daughter safe is…

If you think about it, a legitimate inspector or utilities employee, or whatever, will not coerce their way into your house. They'll show you their I.D. and give you the name of the employer or agency they work for and tell you to call them with your questions and set up another time when they can come in (and they…

This woman is not an elite level gymnast by any means. She is a hardworking, multi discipline athlete. With training, women can "do" the rings. I'm not saying most elite level female gymnasts would be doing the iron cross or anything, but if Odelia Goldschmidt can do a "simple" routine, then elite level gymnasts…

The vagina is technically inside women's bodies. It's the "birth canal" or the inside part before the cervix. The outer parts are the labia and clitoris. Women do not get kicked in the vagina. As for it being worse, I can't believe that on a feminist website, some people refuse to take men's word for it that being…

I'm trying to imagine being kicked in the vagina. It would take a lot of lube and patience I think.

Testicles are organs (I realize that skin and other bodily tissues are also organs, but I'm sure you know what I mean). It's conceivable to me that there is something unique about being hit there. It is possible that being kicked in the balls would be like getting kicked in the uterus if it were not insulated by…

Another commenter mentioned that rape is a crime regardless of the emotional aftermath simply due to the assault on personal integrity and bodily autonomy. It's like we are invested in the idea that it has to destroy us forever in order to have it be regarded as a crime. I can't think of another crime where an…

I'm a weightlifter and I stopped following a certain blog when they posted a supposed to be funny list of weightlifting terms they use in their gym. When their lifters catch the bar with soft elbows, they call it "vag-elbows" or when they can't stand up with it after it's called "vagi-knees" or something. Last I…

I lobbed a kleenex box across the living room to my boyfriend. He fumbled it and it seriously looked like it "touched" his crotch area and he doubled over and complained for a minute after. Kick a person anywhere and it's going to hurt, but balls are different.

A commenter further up the thread brought up that rape should be considered a crime simply because of the violation of bodily autonomy and assault on personal integrity. Whether or not a person is traumatized should have nothing to do with whether or not we think it is wrong. The OP did not suggest that rape should…

8 year olds and 14 year olds are not peers. I remember being 14. I was having sex with a 15 year old. Not rape, because we were peers. When I was 7, I dry humped an 8 year old. Not sexual assault, because we were peers. This is not a case of two kids having sex.