8 year olds and 14 year olds are not peers. I remember being 14. I was having sex with a 15 year old. Not rape, because we were peers. When I was 7, I dry humped an 8 year old. Not sexual assault, because we were peers. This is not a case of two kids having sex.

Hugs.

Statutory rape laws are different all over the place. One thing that is true across the board though (I'm pretty sure) is that it is never illegal to lose one's virginity, regardless of age. Where I am from, an adult can have sex with a 16 year old provided that adult is not in a position of trust or authority (a…

There's lots I take issue with in your comment but I'm just going to address one thing: When I was about kindergarten age, I would put this almost life size doll's face on my crotch and it felt really good. I had some understanding that it was something very private, I even had this sort of power fantasy that she was…

The first step to dealing with it is to recognize it is happening (the manipulation, I mean). Another clear sign you're dealing with someone who doesn't have your best interest at heart is not respecting your "no", which you clearly gave when that guy first started dancing with you and he clearly didn't respect it,…

I took issue with that part too. In his instructions he says to let the girls grind against their dicks, which sounds fine to me. He frames it as though if they've gotten to this point, she will most certainly grind against his dick. I guess if she doesn't, he just has to go get more alcohol. Problem solved.

It's a tactic of manipulation. It's a subtle (but not really that subtle) insult in an attempt to make you want to prove him wrong. I was walking past a group of men at a table in a club once. I briefly made eye contact with the one who was watching me, looked away and kept on my merry way when he said "Well you…

Just a small correction: IUDs do not make you more susceptible to STDs than any other non barrier method of birth control. They do make you more susceptible to more serious, even fatal, pelvic infections from diseases like chlamydia and gonnorhea since the IUD provides an easier path for migration from the vagina…

Something to consider is that it will likely make your periods "worse". I never had any cramps or unusually heavy flow so I was a good candidate for the copper IUD. The heavy days of my period are heavier than before, and I feel some pressure in my abdomen for the first half day now, nothing major. I'm happy enough…

Rapists are people. We tend to think of them as boogeymen. You can feel like this 14 year old child must have been seriously messed up and feel sad for her in that regard while still acknowledging that she was a rapist who warranted being held to account through the criminal justice system. She was 14, obviously…

I am glad you are happy with the results of your surgery and rehab. I think my cynicism stems from the several times where I was actually mildly sick, but was told by doctors that my conditions were normal, or was given drugs that did nothing to affect the root cause of my illness. I guess they see sick people all…

Elite athletes are usually genetically gifted beasts. Their doctors and coaches also have a goal of getting them back to full strength, sometimes using naughty pharmaceutical approaches. For the rest of us, most doctors consider their work a success as long as we can limp through the rest of our lives merely as…

Quoting her saying that she wants to take time off her career for her kids, but is having trouble making that work, or whatever, is totally fine. It's very different from suggesting that she is just generally unhappy and a picture that was chosen for the purpose of encouraging that view, where for all we know she was…

It is pretty obvious that in the moment that picture was taken, she was not genuinely happy. I hope though, that you are not making some generalization about her overall state of emotional well being based on a photograph that was specifically chosen for this article with an editorial purpose in mind. This photo was…

Wow, the culture of entitlement of many of these famous movie folks is rather astounding. It's sad that so many people look up to these people who clearly have personality disorders. I also have to wonder, if what he has done was not so bad, why does he continue to run away? Himself and his sympathizers remind me…

I'm totally on your side about the Polanski thing, but I don't think it is wise to just stop listening to people who are wrong about something. I think what she said about feminism and movies makes sense, and we can judge her opinions on that by their merits. It's conceivable, even likely, that she is not wrong…

Good for you for knowing the difference between real and perceived security. The latter actually puts us at additional risk.

There are no pharmacologically active ingredients in the placebo pills. There could be something that makes up the actual pill that you are sensitive to that is not an actual drug, like yeast or wheat or something, that would likely be found in all of the pills, but perhaps your sensitivity to them is most noticeable…

When I broke up with my ex, I was young and couldn't properly articulate what I felt, so in trying to make him understand, I just gave him examples of times he was an asshole to me. I don't think he liked hearing those things about himself but instead of saying sorry for being an abusive jerk, he said quite…

Easy for you to say.