He was 18. Being just a kid himself, I can cut him some slack for asking for a blow job and bailing out never to be seen again when he woke up covered in virginity blood and menstrual fluids. I would give him the benefit of the doubt and replace "skeevy" with "immature." They were two silly kids having sex with…

The minimum age of consent has gone up to 16 in Canada due to a case where a 30 something year old man was moving his 14 year old girlfriend to the other side of the country with him and her parents couldn't do anything about it, but when I was 14 and had sex with an 18 year old, it was not legally considered…

I really don't believe it is difficult to determine whether or not someone is too drunk to consent. I think there are just rapists who know they are supposed to think that rape is wrong but who don't actually believe it is wrong to "have sex" with someone whose body is on autopilot and whose brains are totally out to…

I agree. Having sex with someone who is intoxicated is not rape. Preying upon someone who is intoxicated because you know they are not functionally aware enough to stop you from raping them is rape. I've had sex while intoxicated many times. I've even felt some regret about it the next day, but I understood what I…

I have a hard time believing that situation ever happens. Humans are social creatures and sex is an intimately social act. Maybe someone with really poor social skills could accidentally rape someone. I would bet that most claims of ignorance on the part of the rapist are false, or they were willfully ignorant and…

Answer: too many. Another number you could add to your math problem is the estimated average number of victims each rapist has. I seem to recall reading a number based on a large sample of rape kits from one city often showing the same DNA in several kits. They had an average number of rapes per rapist but I can't…

I was also a 14 year old girl. I was sexually active WITH MY PEERS starting at that age. I can think of a couple of times where an adult could have been a creep and I might not have said no, or screamed, or cried (until later) and I would have been fucked up about it. I can think of times where I did not practice…

I'm one of those people who routinely gets hung out to dry around here for not thinking every time a 14 year old girl has sex it's automatically rape because of her age. I do believe that I can believe that while still acknowledging that an adult who clearly takes advantage of a mentally ill student (an assumption I…

The problem is that the boy is excused. I don't know how this is lost on so many people. It's not that we think the girl's behaviour is awesome, it's that the boy was an equal participant (assuming they both had their wits about them and were of an age where they could consent) but does not suffer equal…

The issue here isn't whether or not people having oral sex in public is degrading. It is commonly agreed upon that it is obscene. It is actually illegal. It is illegal everywhere because as a society we are generally in consensus that sex is private and people should not have to witness it when engaging in public…

You are totally missing the point of this conversation. No one is suggesting that it is totally awesome/acceptable/admirable that this girl performed blow jobs in public. The issue here is that the publicly naked guy engaged in a public sexual act is totally absent in the criticism. It is a double standard. If it…

Unfortunately, I think in this situation she would be the slut who let some random dude lick her pussy and he would still be the hero.

Yeah, I'm not saying there is anything simple and clearly defined about it. It is related to human sexuality after all.

You almost make it sound like men and women are both hating it when they have sex with each other. I know there are some general differences between genders, but if they "could not be more dissimilar" then how could they ever be satisfied with each other sexually? There is more overlap than you are acknowledging…

In my limited porn viewing experience, something that I just can't get past is that it is so rare that anyone touches anyone else somewhere other than/using something other than their mouth or genitals. Also, cunnilingus is necessarily dispassionate looking because the guy has to make sure the camera can still get a…

I think you are focusing on the actual pleasure of the female porn actor. There really is no way we can know. We can't even know she's not turned on when she is gagging. She might find that incredibly erotic for all we know (I have a true story from a friend to back this up). I think many women say they want to be…

"But woman needs to know what she wants in the first place. Sometimes person finds out what he (she) wants after he (she) experienced a certain act."

I was correcting you based on the wisdom of Tom Cruise. It's just too bad he wasn't there to save them with his magical scientology powers.

It is not the job of porn actors to experience pleasure. Their bodies must respond to some extent but the stuff they do in movies is not necessarily what actually turns them on. Any pleasure they experience is purely incidental. I think if you read doit2julia's comment again and put the word "depictions" in front…

I don't think doit2julia was commenting on the degree of pleasure experienced by the actors. Actors don't take roles purely based on the sex that they personally like, it's more a consideration of the sex they are willing to have. The actual preferences and pleasure of the actors is neither here nor there. Any…