I'm with most everyone else. I don't care about birthdays and I only give people presents when I think of something perfect and I don't wait until their next birthday, I don't ask for or expect presents either. It's possible that is how your friend feels about it, in which case it probably won't matter to her what…

I don't think anyone is trying to shame women like you. I think the outrage is directed at social factors that make women hyper critical of their bodies and the concern is for normal, healthy women who go under the knife for aesthetic reasons. They really should be more specific about that when discussing it but I…

But they DON'T care about the fetus. If they actually thought a fetus was a person they would not have exception clauses for rape or maternal health. They don't think fetus's are people, they think women who willingly have sex should be shamed and punished for their unplanned pregnancies, short of being punished by…

It's so obvious. They think they are hiding it by pretending to care about "babies" but they do such a half assed job of it. Especially considering the lack of concern they often have for actual babies who have been born. Their misogyny is pretty transparent.

In your view it's o.k. to kill a "person" based on the manner in which it was conceived? I don't think you really believe that a fetus is a person, or you would not "understand" if it was conceived by rape. Nor would you "understand" if the woman's life were in danger, if the woman and the fetus were equal persons…

The part where he blames our vaginas for the trouble their dicks get into is pretty funny. There was a good article on Jez the other day about how guys like this really don't fucking matter. They are annoying, they are gum on the bottom of our shoes, and some part of them knows that is the most power they will ever…

It's true in cats, maybe dunkinchunkin heard this and figured that was the case for all mammals. I've never heard that about humans though. I suppose it could be a cruel fact of evolution that acute stress could cause ovulation, it would ensure the survival of the species in situations where there are no willing…

The sentence was poorly worded and could be interpreted either way. "...my ex wife had told me no I don't want too and I've done it." This leaves a person wondering "done what?" Glad to hear you did the right thing.

Your ex-wife told you "no I don't want to" and you did it anyway? That's rape dude. Unless you mean you did what she said? What's a "friends thing?" I'm kinda old, the interweb needs to be explained to me sometimes.

BTW your name is cool too :)

Rape is often a crime of opportunity, like the opportunity that this guy had. I'm not convinced that he won't take other opportunities when they present themselves unless he gets some counselling and therapy which includes real education about sexual assault. Unfortunately he will not be obligated to use these…

I suppose I misspoke. Anyone who would have sex with someone who expresses their discomfort or displeasure is a rapist. I'm not always moaning and cumming all over the place when I've consented to sex, but if I told my partner to slow down and he didn't, or if I said that it hurt and he ignores me, that is rape. He…

One more thing to add, I know blue balls is a thing, I also know based on researching the subject and talking to my male friends that it is not as common as you say it is. If you are abnormally susceptible to it, you really need to heed my advice about communicating and setting boundaries for yourself. Some women…

Those guys knew what my boundaries were because I told them, most times they did not express boundaries of their own and I could not possibly have been expected to read their minds, I can only assume they felt the same pleasure that I did. The sexual pleasure of women is not less important than the sexual pleasure of…

Yep. You can rape someone and be a rapist, or you can respect yourself and others and not be a rapist. It is as clear and simple as that.

A guy is ALWAYS capable of stopping. Wah Wah it's hard, yes, I get that, but only rapists are capable of having sex with someone who isn't enthusiastic about it and they need to be taken out of the population and hopefully rehabilitated. It is your responsibility to communicate that you are close to getting aroused…

Me too. I have to acknowledge that I'm small and pretty though. I don't know if other women could pull it off without losing some of the privileges that I have retained.

You just essentially offered yourself and your wife as a case in one of Hugo's points. I'm not suggesting that you try anything that might damage your relationship, however I think it would be worthwhile to examine the sexism of your attitudes and try to overcome them, which would actually safeguard your…

Nowhere in the article does it advise that women should start anally raping their boyfriends. I wonder why all the comments "I don't want to, there'll be hell to pay if she tries it!" and all I can come up with is a reaction to deep and intimate fear and insecurity. No one asked you about your sexual preferences and…

I'm curious how anal sex is related to First Nations issues?