My boyfriend found out and laid his hands on me. He apologized the same day, and we said we will never cheat or hurt each other again. Then he ended up texting other girls and I caught him twice.

“Lay his hands on me.”

I haven’t read the recommended book “Why does he do that?”, but I have read “The Gift of Fear” by Gavin De Becker (which I greatly recommend), and he points out that each episode of physical violence is a test to see if you will continue to accept the rules of the relationship as he gives them to you. This likely…

Go find your local women’s shelter and volunteer to help there for a few hours a week, It will be a very informative experience and you will be helping people who really, really need a friend.

Exactly. I changed my name to a great grandmothers maiden name and use that, but haven’t legally changed it because he could track it down in a court record. I don’t do facebook anymore at all. The first year was hard and isolating, but I actually think it improves the quality of my life in the long run. Hurt: think…

As an EMT, the only call that’s ever scared me enough to make me consider leaving the field was a DV. The patient that’s stayed with me the most, the one I think about more than any other, was a victim of DV.

What she did is irrelevant to the point at hand: that he hit her and she needs to leave today.

The big thing here (or sticking with any other terrible relationship) is the fear that if you lose the one you’ve got you’ll never get another one. And that if you’re not in a relationship, oh my god there goes your entire self worth which is ‘at least I’m in a relationship’.

You could have told him how you felt instead of flirting with someone else, which undoubtedly made your whole situation worse. Still, what you did doesn’t give him the right to go behind your back too, but it was the wrong move for sure. Is this your fault? Maybe, maybe not.

Right? A lot of people here are ready to crucify her rather than a dude who was beating on his SO.

This week we have a woman who isn’t sure if she should leave her physically abusive boyfriend.

The answer to that question is always yes. Leave. No normal man will tell you otherwise.

Dear Hurt Again,

The FIRST time someone puts their hands on you must be the LAST and ONLY time they do it. There is no excuse for it, no justification, no anything. It should be an absolute line in the sand that is never crossed. Leave now and don’t look back.

My guess is “talking to” in this context actually means “flirting with people of the opposite sex while acting like you are single.”

Hurt, it really doesn’t matter whether it was your fault or not. An abuser is like a wild animal that tastes blood. They start to crave it. It gets to a point where even if you don’t do anything wrong, they will invent a reason to hit you. Every action, word or facial expression will be policed until you “step out of…

My sister recently got out of a physically abusive relationship. The I’m sorry please forgive me I’ll never do it again act is classic Jekyll and Hyde that you see in domestic abusers. Don’t rule out going to a shelter for battered women, they can provide you with the resources you’ll need, and trust me, it will…

1. Get the fuck out of there. Move as far away from him as you can.
2. Ghost the fuck out of him. Delete your social media presence, change your number, block his number. Do not contact him again. Do not look back. NEVER reconnect with him, never get sloppy drunk and hit him up with a “how are you” text.
3. Get…

Dear Hurt Again,

The first thing you have to get through your head is that this cannot be fixed, HE cannot be fixed. The next time this happens, and trust me as someone who’s been there, it WILL happen again, it will get worse. And it progressively gets worse until you end up in the hospital. Or dead.