Yeah, cuz it’s totally normal to tell a guy serving you coffee that maybe he can borrow a tech magazine from his father.

It only morphed into that in the minds of sexist men who needed a straw man to burn. Just like “feminist” never meant “man hater” even though there were guys running around insisting that it did.

Oh you have not been told that. At least you haven’t been told that by women. Please.

Mansplaining means explaining something when it’s pretty clear (or easily discoverable) that the person you’re explaining it to already knows it as well or better than you do. I kind of feel like the women here are explaining something to people who are pretty obviously unaware of what the term means.

Okay, and real, lived experiences.

I was at work. So I called him out on it as politely as possible and moved on. Just like I try to do every time it happens.

Yep. The thing is, he doesn’t think he’s a jerk. He just assumed I was at a way more basic level than my job title indicated, so he didn’t really listen to my question. As the article says, the condescending jerk phenomenon happens mostly as a man-to-woman thing. Most men don’t do it, some women do, some men do it to…

I work in a male-dominated field. Recently, in a conversation with a woman friend who works in the same field, we talked about how some of our male colleagues have helped us tremendously and how some have become some of our best friends. There are definitely communications that count as “helping you improve.” That’s…

It’s not my first assumption. It’s my lived experience that it’s mostly men to mostly women. And it’s definitely not because they’re men. There are tons of men who don’t do this and never would. And it’s not because I’m a woman — there are some men who do it to everybody.

This happened in a work meeting in front of the male CEO.

See, I would argue that no one should give anyone unsolicited parenting advice. And that doing so might constitute mansplaining.

Talking about your own experiences is definitely not mansplaining. I’m glad you shared them, especially the part about what *doesn’t* work in the workplace.

I’m honestly curious what things have been explained to you that you that it’s readily apparent that you already know. What has your experience been?

You’re absolutely welcome.

The guy I responded to didn’t agree with the article so he posted a comment. I didn’t agree with the comment so I posted a response. Now you’re posting to say you disagree. And yet I’m the only one who is supposed to move on? Maybe y’all should get over your dicks.

“Douche” — yet another gendered term used to insult women. Yet that term is totally okay with you.

:)

Thank God there are men who understand that no one wants to take away their privileges and who try to help others gain the same privileges.

Except no one is acting like men are the only people... the article directly states that they aren’t.