Exactly i agree!

The key word in this post is "inequality": Over-giving (even over-loaning) is an attempt to tilt the relationship in the over-giver's favor.

I have to agree. If I saw a check in a card, I'd assume it was an incredibly generous gift. If it was a loan, there'd be some sort of conversation around it, like "I know you can't pay me back now, so hit me up when your tax return comes in."

You're kidding right? You make this claim that you're a giver, yet you are expecting something back... a payment. That's not giving, that's loaning. I'm sorry, but the true definition of giving is when you give someone something without expecting anything back, and that includes emotions, hugs, payments, or public…

You didn't give, you loaned, and you did so in a very unclear sort of way. If someone sends me a check in a birthday card I consider that a gift.