I think you managed to go through a list of every possible way to not make an apology there.
“It’s a hopeless feeling that no amount of good feelings can erase. I don’t wish that feeling on anyone, but I do wish they’d take our word for it that it feels that miserable.”
Pro tip? What professional expertise applies here? It’s
just a phrase but I’m wondering if you’ve considered where your
expertise comes from and whether it applies.
And it’s not just the blatant behavior that’s a problem. Doctors undermedicating non-white patients for pain isn’t a public-shame sort of video, but it’s racism. Add in the ignored heart disease and food deserts and you’ve got just one way that really polite racists kill people.
On one of the videos someone said the ER is across the street. If so, that makes the refusal to go particularly awkward. (Oh, unless that’s where the doctor whose dental records she was examining was?)
[Upfront, because it’s relevant context, I’m an American and I’m white]
The idea of ‘uncivilized’ behavior is grounded in colonial and racist attitudes in general. She’s focused on the doctor’s TEETH, she’s not going to stop being a racist because of a lack of physical repercussions. I clicked through to the video and noticed several articles that mentioned she’d already alienated her…