There are huge developmental differences between a 14 and 26 year old that are particularly critical when we talk about ability to make choices, ability to recognize right from wrong and formation/stabilization of your personality. So this is really a false equivalence here. Also, when we talk about adults taking…

I have teenagers in my family who have the emotional maturity of five-and eight-year-olds. There’s no way their sexual consent should be taken as “informed.”

Arguably every interaction has some element of coercion. I think the case of Lori Maddox and David Bowie is a great illustration of this. If Lori was 30 it would still be coercion since a superstar of timeless fame will never ben equal in power to a groupie.

The reasons for every relationship and interaction are…

IOW - “She made the best of a bad situation, so leave her alone”? Let’s say that instead of jet planes and coke & fashion photographers she got half a pack of smokes and didn’t even get to keep the bottle of Wild Turkey he’d shared with her when he left the trailer park. Do you suppose she’d still be happy with her…

Exactly this. We need to make sure our daughters are aware that rape and coercion, grooming and assault are very close kin. And that they have a responsibility to understand WHY they themselves might want to have sex, because they may be prey. And that’s a bad reason.

I agree with a lot of your points. I didn’t interpret OPs statement as anything other than “I’ll say flat out I think David Bowie is a rapist, and I won’t tiptoe around it or make excuses just because I like his music.”

Yup, coercion and temptation are sweaty, grinning twins. A fourteen year old, especially one who’s feeling his/her oats and going through the changes of adolescence, wants to feel adult, grown, taken seriously, not treated like a “little kid.” So offers of drugs, of flirting, of photography, of sexual encounters, can…

I did. And the law is the law whether “she liked it” or “everyone was doing it.”

Did you even read the whole article?