I wholeheartedly agree- I also have misgivings about the commodification of images of violence against women that are consumes on a mass scale because of porn (often without any of the context of the performers wanting to engage in consensual power-play). It is a thorny discussion though- on the other hand, I do think…

People speculating on other people’s sexuality has always elicited extreme side-eye from me, so whatever the truth of that footage, neither of them have come out as queer/experimenting/ect, so I’m going to go with that.

That’s a legitimate criticism and I honestly don’t know - I only ever read stuff about him/interviews with him and haven’t seen his work. I have no metric to judge by, and honestly it’s a question we might never know the answer to because I doubt he’d admit to that.

I’m not trying to deny that at all - one of my fave bloggers explains this phenomenon well. I just want to be clear that BDSM doesn’t CAUSE rapists.

“someone who has those tendencies already would be attracted to that sort of play.”

I completely agree, as long as you’re not implying that getting rid of BDSM would somehow make rape culture disappear. However -my issue with a lot of BDSM porn is that none of the real-world discussions on consent and safe words are present- removing the context of those discussions, which are probably deemed…

Yeah, in some ways, you could say that rape is “inevitable”. In societies where women’s bodily autonomy is respected more, there is LESS sexual violence, not NO sexual violence. Some men will always be rapists. We can reduce that number of men, but eliminating it completely is either optimistically naive or foolish,…

Fucking thank you, I feel like I’m stuck trying to explain it to people who are being obstinately ignorant here.

Yeah, a dominant aggressive role as part of a scene in porn- presumably consensual and discussed with the actress/director beforehand - that’s the nature of BDSM. The fact that he was creepy, that he ignored safe words of actresses and girlfriends alike- that has nothing to do with the BDSM he did but with his fucking…

Can we please not feed into the dumb idea that wanting to engage in consensual BDSM is caused by mental illness/leads to mental illness? Plenty of rapists aren’t into BDSM. Being into BDSM does not, over time, turn someone into a rapist. Only rapists are responsible for their rapes, not any of the subcultures that…

Ohhh ok but, neither one of them has remotely expressed being queer? And Karlie is in a relationship? So I’m just not seeing how this Karlie (platonic friendship) >>> Calvin (non-platonic relationship) equation is working out in the the swifties’ minds. The internet never ceases to confuse.

To be fair, in the world of mainstream porn, there are so few people to cheer for.

Honest question (where is adultosaur???) who is Karlie???

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nope not just you

If you do end up finding those interviews, please post!

Yeahhh I’m really pissed that in all 10 hours of the damn thing she didn’t mention the phrase “domestic violence” ONCE. And Hae’s journal entries that don’t paint a particularly rosy picture of Adnan are dismissed as “normal teenage schoolgirl” stuff. Noooooooooooooooooooope.

Here to say that I am really going to miss your writing. A lot. A LOT. What? No those aren’t tears. Someone is just cutting an onion somewhere.

Also- if you’re drunk, drugged, or otherwise incapacitated, being able to press this, or even remembering to press this, is going to be a challenge.

Video not found? Did they take it down because of its content? What bullshit.