I guess I don’t know either. Maybe the toxic cultural environment right now has fucked me up to the point where “well, at least it was just about entitlement and not about being aroused by victimizing others” is comforting.

This is a really good call, I hadn’t thought about consent education from that angle. I would love a world where we could all say fuck you, I know you knew better. I think it could also make it more clear to victims that what happened to them was wrong.

This really drives home the difference between predators and idiots who don’t understand consent. There is a difference between fucking up huge then having remorse and feeling entitled to do whatever you want to other peoples’ bodies.

I worked at a place where the entire staff was older women who loved to bake. Similar to another tip but not quite the same, the best thing for me was to imagine what their kitchens might look like. How many cats on the counter while they prepare food? How frequently do they wash their hands? How much mouse shit is in…

This is my rep. I’ve emailed him so many times and it’s clearly not helping.

My day-to-day is actually pretty ok. It’s the industry culture that’s killing me. When I go to a convention and the recruiters keep steering me toward marketing jobs instead of programming jobs. When I have to constantly correct people when they say assume I’m in design instead of development. When I google an error…

That sucks. I considered teaching, but all of my interests and education are STEM based and I knew the parents would be just as dickish as the CS jerks.

I’m a programmer and a woman. And I’m definitely considering switching fields. It would mean a pay cut but this shit is everywhere and I’m pretty much done.

This:

It has helped me to think of myself as an acquired taste. I hated whisky for a long time even though now I see that it is objectively the best liquor and that is a fact. I’m goddamn delightful, but not everyone sees it right away.

Thank you.

I think it typically would be, unless I mentioned that I didn’t get the information from the registry, I got it from my personal experience. And I’m too private of a person to run around to all my neighbors and talk about something so deeply personal. I wish I wasn’t.

I don’t need advice, I just need someone to tell me it’ll be ok. I’m in a painful situation. It sounds like a lifetime movie plot but I promise it’s actually true.

As the parent of college-age males, I would pay a lot for male birth control. Just for the peace of mind.

Especially with our political climate/rights/everything is in such a stressful state right now, it warms my heart to see old people feeling safe enough to come out.

If a good rinse in warm, soapy water followed by a towel rub-down doesn’t make my legs clean enough, the state of my home would horrify you.

I never hate myself for having candy for dinner. If I put on pants that day I totally earned that shit.

I think I owe her what I owe everyone - a brief moment of introspection on the reason for the mocking/criticism. Is it something she is or something she does? The latter is fair game. If it is something she is, is it something that should be mocked? A woman over 22? Nope, not ok. A racist lying scumbag? Totally…

I think I was four. My single mom worked at a bank and that morning she got a run in her pantyhose. It was her only pair and we didn’t have money for another one. She couldn’t go to work with a run in her stockings but she couldn’t go without them and she broke down. As far as I remember, it was the first time I saw…

Is there an org that defends the freedom of the press in court and lobbies for transparency? I want to give them money. Please advise.