I can be a pretty pugnacious person, but the first time I was groped (some guy just reached over and grabbed my tit) while several of us were in a darkroom developing film, I completely froze. I questioned if it really happened. Everyone was stunned and no one said anything. I chose to just ignore it ever happened…

His response “Thanks for the links. I’ll definitely read these when I get some downtime. Much appreciated for the information.”

In this particular situation my reaction as a guy would probably have been to just ask him “What the fuck are you doing?” straight up.

Some of the answers to your post are really illuminating. For what my opinion is worth, I thought that your question was valid, and I am at a loss to justify the violence it generated.

Guy walks up behind me on a city street, broad daylight. Leans in to the back of my head and loudly smells my hair.

“But if someone has their hand on me in an inappropriate manner, I’m not going to stand still to take a photo.”

You don’t know that. You may think you know how you would react, but until it happens, you don’t. And even if it has happened before, you don’t know what will happen the next time.

She probably froze. When this kind of thing happens to you (and it has happened to most women) part of you can’t believe it’s happening, part of you doesn’t want it to be happening, and then it’s over. He probably waited until the photographer was about to take the photo and went in for a grab. And she was 23 at the…

Fight, flight, or freeze.

No, it’s a good question, and one that doesn’t get asked or answered enough. I was a terror as a teen, and went to a parochial girls’ school as well, so nobody could pull any guff on me. But women in general are trained to be submissive, and not to make a fuss, and even if you are powerful and famous, many women…

Aside from the embarrassment, I’ve also found there’s that frozen feeling of “Huh? Is that happening?” Times that I’ve been messed with that way I’ve rarely reacted in the moment, thinking that maybe I’ve somehow misunderstood what’s happening. Later, I berate myself for not reacting immediately and loudly. I’m no…

What’s commonly referred to as the “fight or flight” response is more accurately termed “fight, flight, or freeze.” Many victims of assault experience a state akin to temporary paralysis called tonic immobility. The “freeze” option is part of a nervous system response over which the victim has virtually no control.

If that was a scolding then your parents were very kind, lol.

Because it scares the fuck out of you when a predator does this to you. As soon as she felt powerful enough, she had him removed from the venue.

Well, I don’t know Emily Shire and I’m also sick of Jezebel demonising her as well while holding Sarsour up as some kind of martyred saint, so maybe stop trying to dismiss someone’s opinion based on her knowing the person in question. I don’t think Sarsour is a terrorist the way the far right try to portray her but I…

This. They went after Majiid Nawaz as well. hey literally called him an anti muslim bigot, despite the fact that he is still a practicing muslim and just want to reform it to a more liberal form. There’s a wonderful bit from his radio show on youtube where he takes a call from a muslim who is mad at him for saying…

No. Nope nope nope. Never once was her mutilation called into question. Her immigration forms were based on her lie about coming directly from Somalia, which she freely admits she was low-key advised to do as her *real* reason to flee is not politically recognized. She *was* fleeing her marriage and talking the word…

This website is highly critical of people on a consistent basis for one tweet, one post, or one statement. I can recall numerous articles, posts, etc., about individuals who would otherwise be “woke” deserving harsh criticism because of such tweets, posts, statements, etc.

Laughing my ass off at #Dutyfree. But let’s not pretend like these producers are not out here watering down Caribbean people music and then trying to call it “tropical house”.

As they say, art should comfort the disturbed and disturb the comfortable. Or as they say in comedy, jokes should punch up, not down. Who in America would you categorize as “comfortable” or the ones on top in needing of a punch? Black people??

“Art should comfort the disturbed and disturb the comfortable.”